April, 2014 Archives


What Do I Do About a Cheating Spouse?

“How can I keep hope when I know my husband is cheating and dishonest? He pretends all is fine, but I am the one who is suffering inside. My only solace is talking and praying every day to my Lord Jesus, God, Immaculate Virgin Mary, St. Anne her mother and St. Joseph along with the Holy Spirit. I gave my vows at the Altar when I got married 30 years ago. It’s hard to show emotions toward him when I know what he’s doing. What can I do? Do I just put on a face and pretend, and be the victim?” ~… Read more.

What I Learned From Grief

The moment my dad died, my life changed forever. It crystallized the sobering reality that tomorrow or even the next minute is not promised to anyone. I had heard that phrase many times in my life, but to witness my father take his last breath when I was only 20 years old made it come alive inside of me. Although we cannot control when or how our story ends, we can maximize the time we have and create a beautiful story for our lives every single day. I am committed to get to the good part and not put my… Read more.

The Catalyst

At first I didn’t know why I felt so poorly. I thought that it might just be due to my new job filled with travel, deadlines, and an ever-changing focus. My stress-levels increased while my exercise decreased. My eating habits became poor as processed, prepackaged convenience foods and the perceived need for caffeine became the norm. Even when I tried to eat better, the weight still kept coming on and my digestive system was erratic. I began to have health issues with seemingly no source. My menstrual cycle was horrendous with heavy flowing for weeks, not days, excruciating pain piercing… Read more.

How to Deepen Connections

Tell the Truth, Even When It’s Scary

I have learned nothing more deeply satisfying or life-affirming than this: The more we can discover what is true with us, the more open become the walls that constrict our souls. And when we do so out loud with a trusted friend or partner, the more permeable become the walls that separate us from each other, and the more connected we become, Soul to Soul. Lesson 1: Discover new Truth. Where we are keeping secrets from ourselves—false personalities we developed in childhood, traumas we “forgot,” truths about us we dare not think—we must work hard to not face them. Hiding… Read more.

The Art of Authenticity

The words I would like to leave to humanity are walk in your own authenticity. While this may sound elementary, as I have walked through several phases of my journey, I realized I lost valuable time not being completely authentic. I am aware the growing process had a vast impact upon the way I viewed and perceived myself. However, decisions I made based on the environment, and peers caused me to present a facade which was not my character nor my stature. Authenticity to me is the ability to reach within myself and expose even to myself, my triumphs and… Read more.

Finding Clarity in Your Life

A life full of happiness and success can be yours. All you have to do is simply take a few moments each and every day to remember and to live by these words: “The greater your personal clarity, the greater your quality of life.” If you aren’t clear about who you are, and why you are here, it is going to be very tempting and very easy in today’s fast-paced world for you to be perpetually off-balanced. Remember, it’s easy to be busy, instead of being productive. It’s easy to be hurried, and miss out on being happy. So to… Read more.

Can Meditation Make Me Happier?

“I find the world to be filled with sadness, and sometimes, I honestly don’t want to be here. I’ve tried anti-depressants but I don’t like the side effects. I’d like to take control of my life and change my attitude, but I don’t know where to start. Any suggestions?” ~ John, Boulder, CO Dear John, First, you’re right to have stopped taking the anti-depressants. They do cause unwelcome side effects and they do nothing to get to the root of depression. My answer to this question might surprise you somewhat, but firstly I’d advise looking at ways you can give… Read more.

Bouncing with Style: Toxic Ex-Partners

Last night I was on a panel of experts talking about toxic relationships. One of the experts identified 6 or 7 things people do in a toxic “ex” relationship.  No one falls neatly into one category and people can and often do exhibit more than one of these toxic behaviors. The only problem I had with her presentation was that it was filled with psycho-babble-ease that left me stumped with the fancy terms. So I put it in terms that we can all understand and have a good chuckle! The Big Buttinski This person interferes with your new relationship. It… Read more.

The Four Fundamental Questions of Life

These days I tell everyone that I can to do whatever it takes to make sure that they are not among the 98% of people who spend 98% of their time on the 98% of things in life that don’t matter. Until way too late in my life, I included myself in that group. Now I make sure that everything I think, say, and do is directly related to the Agenda of my Soul—which has nothing to do specifically with the desires of my body or the insatiable and usually non-beneficial activities of my mind. I have chosen in these… Read more.

Am I Supposed to Ignore Money?

“The area of struggle for me is money. Manifestation concepts say that you should be thinking about what you want, feeling it, and imagining what it would be like to have it. However, when I have read the concepts of manifesting money it seemed to say not to focus on it but rather to focus on gratitude of the money I currently have. This leaves me rather confused. I daydream daily about having money and the things I would do with it, I have no problem feeling the freedom and abundance that would come with having money. Is that wrong?… Read more.

At One with Your Circumstances

There have been many times in my life, and still some today, when I fight reality. I want a different outcome. I desire for things to be different than they are. I pray for divine intervention to change the facts. What usually occurs are that the facts remain and all I have done is create pain and disappointment for myself. It is said that what we resist, persists. What if instead of resisting, we accepted? Recently I was introduced to the Navajo word “Hozho.” It is the most important word in the Navajo language. Roughly translated it means peace, balance,… Read more.

Your Built-In Truth Detector & How To Have It All

In life there will be doubt, in even the strongest of minds and hearts. When in doubt, trust the body to lead you through it. Hand on heart, and the other on your stomach, ask if an option you consider is right for you. The heart will warm and feel light with a yes, the stomach will shrink and feel leaden or cold for a no. Your body may differ, but it will always give you equally clear signals, of what is best for you. Don’t trust what your tongue says as it makes its arguments for or against a… Read more.

Find Happiness NOW

Your Top Priority This Year

In my opinion, there is one thing that is much more important than anything else: learning to be happy and fulfilled in your life. Truly happy people tend to be richer, more giving, more productive, and even a lot healthier than everyone else. So how can you easily become much happier in this fast paced, crazy world we live in? Fortunately there are many simple, powerful methods that can make a dramatic difference in your level of happiness. In fact, some methods that take only a minute a day, have been proven to have more effect on your level of… Read more.

What We Learn from Love

We find ourselves created out of love or for love, slipping though the chambers of our mothers’ womb… into the birth canal… and all of a sudden, we arrive. We don’t know exactly where we are or where we are going but certainly we need affection and love to survive. Love becomes just as important to us as our first breath of life. Love helps us to discover who we are and what our purpose is or shall be. Love gives of itself and is not puffed up. Love covers and carries us through pain and disappointments in our life…. Read more.

Hope Is Not A Strategy

There was a time when my life was going ok. I was working a lot of hours, making a lot of money, and enjoying my free time. Like many of you, I suspect, this was ok. At the time I was working about 70 hours a week. I was struggling to make it through the day, and hoping that things would get better. I hoped that my career would slow down. I hoped that I would be able to take some time off soon. I hoped that I could begin to take better care of myself. Then things began to go… Read more.

To Have More Happiness, Eat Peas and Grapes! Part 2

Welcome back.  I trust that you have explored holding the energy of Ease and that you’re finding it serves your feelings of happiness to do so. Let’s continue with how being in Ease helps you experience Peace. Ease is the surface layer of this deeper inner state. Peace is your State of Being beyond resistance. A place we all strive to get, and yet, there’s only one place to go to arrive there. Peace is within the Essence of you, the inner state of allowing and trust, the space of unequivocal knowing that everything is exquisitely right, that all is… Read more.

An Extraordinary Life is Your Birthright

You were put on this earth to experience an extraordinary life: a life of joy, purpose and abundance. It is your birthright. The fact that so few do disturbs me greatly. As Henry David Thoreau so aptly said, “Most people lead lives of quiet desperation and go to their graves with their music still in them.” I don’t want this to be you! Even if you do not believe this is possible for you at this moment, I don’t ever want you to stop searching for answers. Constantly ask yourself, “How can I live an extraordinary life? What do I… Read more.

Your Triumph Over Discontentment

Discontentment is a kind of psychic echo. In fact, whatever the unhappiness may be, it is only an inner echo that is “sounding” within us. As difficult as it may be to understand this at the present time, suffering only seems real. It has no real life. How is this possible? Our inner stress, strain, and pain feel real to us, for sure; but then, so do all of the fears we feel in the middle of a nightmare. But where is the terror once we wake up? It doesn’t exist anymore because it was only real as long as… Read more.

Your Past Doesn’t Have to Determine Your Present

In today’s world, where technology has eclipsed our humanity, many of us are looking for a way to operate in our lives with a day-to-day sense of excellence and wellbeing, a way that fulfills our spiritual nature. People have tried different religions or disciplines with varying degrees of success or failure. They have taken motivational workshops to try to discover some meaning to apply to their lives and many have come away wondering, “Is this all there is?” This vague sense of emptiness or dissatisfaction can permeate our lives, even when we accomplish the goals we set for ourselves. People… Read more.

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