Should I Take the First Step in a Relationship?

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“Two weeks ago my crush sent me a friendship request on Facebook and he told me that he likes me. I was so happy but since then we haven’t talked. I texted him once after that but the last message is always mine — I feel like he’s not interested in me anymore. The sad part is that I will never see him again after this week , he’s going to another country! And I don’t know if I should tell him that I like him or not — what if he ignores me and I’ll look so stupid? What should I do, please?” ~ Lisa, Paris

Dear Lisa,

Here are several things I’ve learned in life that have helped me through times like this:

Follow your heart, not your fears. Instead of worrying about what might be, live in the moment and enjoy what is. Focus on what you want, not that which you fear. Trust that your heart will never lead you down the wrong path and that the Universe is always bringing you blessing- even when your prayers aren’t answered in a way that you’d like. Know that everything always happens for a good reason and that there is blessing in everything- especially when you can’t see it in the moment.

LIVE your life! Life is short and the opportunities that come to us may not come again. Chances are, at the end of your life your regrets won’t be for things you did, but rather, for those that you didn’t. Reach out to your friend and take the chance for happiness!

Be honest, even when it makes you vulnerable. Let your friend know how you feel, even if it’s scary to do. The long-term joy will always far outweigh any short-term pain.

Bottom line is this – If you don’t reach out now, you may lose him forever. If you reach out and tell him how you feel, you might be rejected and he won’t be a part of your future. But if he isn’t interested, you’ve lost nothing- for you never had him in the first place.

If you have the courage to speak to him from your heart, he might feel the same and then, magic happens. But, the magic can’t happen without you first having the courage to share your feelings with him.

All the best!

Gail Lynne Goodwin

Gail Lynne Goodwin

Gail Lynne Goodwin is the founder of, bringing the best inspiration to the world. provides free inspiration, each day from a new Inspirational Luminary, to a global community of folks from over 150 countries. Gail has interviewed many well-known names including Sir Richard Branson, Guy Laliberte, Seth Godin, Tony Hseih, Gary Vaynerchuk, Michael Gerber, Marci Shimoff, Jack Canfield and hundreds more. According to Mashable, Gail was one of 2009's Top 25 Most Inspirational People on Twitter. Prior to, Gail spent several years as manager for her recording artist daughter, Carly. As a result of the success of their co-penned song, "Baby Come Back Home", Gail accompanied her daughter to bases in the US and to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba where Carly performed for our troops. Gail and Carly created the 'World's Longest Letter' of love and support and delivered the 18-mile long scroll on a month-long tour of Iraq and the Persian Gulf in 2006. Gail is excited to present her latest course, Love in 21 Days, a step-by-step guide to finding love online. Love in 21 Days is founded on a logical process that has been tested - and proven! - by not only Gail, but also by students around the world who too have found love. Gail is a published author and a regular writer for the Huffington Post. She offers mentoring and mastermind services to clients worldwide from her home in Whitefish, Montana. Follow Gail on Twitter or Google+.

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  1. peter verin
    peter verin says:

    follow you heart, not your fears: sound advice, to which i ‘d add
    listen to the logic………


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