Post a Note – Sentiments That Stick

  • By Michele Howe.

    I was telling a good friend how much I had been appreciating reading two books on gratitude – the kind of gratitude that is not dependent upon having good things happen or experiencing favorable circumstances.

    In other words, developing an attitude of gratitude that “sticks” no matter what.

    This friend (whom I am always so grateful for…) recommended another book on the same theme called 365 Thank Yous by John Kralik.

    The timing of this book was perfect because this author, a lawyer, discusses his 15 months of sending out 365 thank-yous to different people who touched his life and how it changed him forever.

    Recognizing that time was slipping away from me and soon I’d be in recovery mode for a while (and unable to write with my left hand), I decided the month of August would be my month to send thank-yous.

    Reading about Kralik’s inner transformation as he began (very uncomfortably at first) to come up with people/things/events for which to give thanks…sparked in me some forgotten (people/things/events) for which I was grateful but had forgotten to say, “Thank you,” to the people responsible for bringing good into my life.

    As Kralik writes, “I did not view writing thank-you notes as a self-help system, nor did I view it as a new, positive psychological method to delude myself into believing that my life is better than it really is or to cultivate an artificial state of well-being. This is just an exercise in average good manners. At the risk of making an unscientific and directly moral statement, I will say writing thank-you notes is a good thing to do and makes the world a better place. It also made me a better man. More than success or material achievement, this is what I sought.”

    Throughout this book, Kralik is continually amazed at the power of a simple written, “thank-you,” and how it totally changed him (on the inside) and his relationship with the recipients of his expressions of thanks. Whenever he wrote and shared his “thanks” it “stuck” and everyone was the better for it.

    Kralik has pretty much mastered the art of writing a thank you note…but he gives one primary suggestion for everyone to follow.

    “The one sure piece of advice I have on how to write thank-yous is this: write a lot of them.”

    Michele Howe

    Michele is the author of fourteen books for women and has published over 2000 articles, reviews, and curriculum to more than 100 different publications. Her articles and reviews have been published in Good Housekeeping, First For Women, Single Parent Family, Christian Single, and many other publications. Michele’s single parenting titles include Going It Alone and Still Going It Alone. After having undergone six shoulder surgeries, Michele saw the need for a women’s inspirational health-related book co-authored with her orthopedic surgeon titled, Burdens Do a Body Good: Meeting Life’s Challenges with Strength (and Soul), released in 2010 and from which Prescription for Life, their health, medical and surgical informational book is based. One Size Fits All: Making Healthy Choices, Stepping Into a Meaningful Life, a women's health/inspirational devotional by Lighthouse of the Carolinas was released late 2012 and Faith, Friends, and Other Floatation Devices will be published in 2013 by ACTA Publications. Michele's newest release is Burden Lifters: Every Woman's Daily Guide to a Healthy Happy Life, published by Bondfire Books. Read more of Michele's work at and contact Michele at:

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    1. Mel @ Trailing After God
      Mel @ Trailing After God says:

      That is a FANTASTIC idea! I’m going to add this to my “to do” list for my 31 days of depression series (if you don’t mind). Getting out of ourselves and being thankful is a huge blessing to ourselves and the recipients. Going to add this book to my to read list along with yours 🙂

      How is your shoulder healing?

      Please feel free to stop by: Trailing After God

      • Michele Howe
        Michele Howe says:

        Hey Mel!
        Thanks for the good word…along the lines of this book, I’d recommend another, Choosing Gratitude, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss…powerful. Just checked out your lovely site…wow…what a help and a mission you’re on. Nicely done. 🙂

        Shoulder? Getting better every day…happiness. 🙂


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