With Empathy, Together We Fly

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If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I'd want to pass along to others...

  • I invite you to be kind and listen. Some of you may know this as empathy or compassion, or the concern for what people are feeling and needing. I would invite you to practice the empathic thought…”I wonder what’s going on for this person?”, or “I wonder how I can be of service to them?”

    Learn to see empathy as more than just ‘swapping shoes’. Empathy is an action plan, a practice where we guess what people are feeling, along with a language where we ask them if they’re feeling what we are guessing.  See empathy as an action where we act on our guess by adding ‘ing’ to Compassion, ‘Compassioning’, and see empathy as a need we all have for deep understanding.

    We can say “No” with Compassion, just by saying what prevents us from saying “Yes”. I remember the look of absolute serenity on my friends face once, when I responded to their question with, “My need to follow my Heart, prevents me from saying ‘Yes'”!

    I would also invite you to receive gratitude from someone, whole-heartedly, with the same love & energy it was given. For example, when someone thanked me for driving them to the airport recently, I responded with “I’m so glad that I could help”, instead of “No problem”. It’s really important to know how to give and receive gratitude, compassionately.

    I would invite you to start your day off with yoga, meditation and exercise, as I have found it offers a foundation that catapults me into Present Moment Synergy, completely. I’d invite you to be “Selful”, in relation to selfish or selfless, where everyone’s needs are honored, valued and attended to, as I’ve noticed it really brings a balance to my day that is expansive.

    I’d invite you to try ‘Acupressure Breath Tapping’, combined with Affirmations, as they can be FUN things to do in the car, especially after a 40 second Smiling practice.

    I would definitely invite you to sing positive songs during the day, as it’s awesome how they can become a self-fulfilling prophecy!

    As I invite myself to see that which matters most to me, it becomes crystal clear that it’s the love of my friends and family, and the big reasons we do what we do, not the small vehicles that take us where we think we want to go.

    If FUN is on your agenda, I invite you to play, juice and read. I also philosophically invite you to “Accentuate the Unity, before Celebrating the Diversity”, because I believe it’s important to refrain from diminishing people’s humanity.

    The way I see it, life’s a celebration, especially when we observe, without evaluation.

    Be grateful today, my friends, and let me know if you find some FUN ways to ‘Be Kind And Listen’ today.

    Emaste’: Emaho…exclamation of wonder and amazement and Namaste’…the God in me, sees the God in you!

    Tony Scruggs

    Describing himself as a spiritual-being experiencing life as an American of African-Ancestry (with an athletically-professional pedigree), Tony Scruggs is a paradigm maker and transformational speaker, incorporating restorative justice & social change with personal power & nonviolent communication (NVC)! As the son of an LGBT father (also an NVC trainer) who grew up across the street from Stanford University, Tony joined a fraternity @ Ucla, played in the big leagues and has acted in movies & sports commercials. He brings the energy of an elite athlete, the empathy of his Psych PhD mother and the wisdom of his friends and mentors. Some people make the current paradigm more effective and some make more effective paradigms! Tony does both and shares tools & philosophies (including group privilege & human variation) that like a true metaphysician focus on prevention & health. Known as #TheEmpathyGuy Tony Scruggs speaks on compassion @ home, in the classroom, in society & in the workplace.

    For more information, please visit TheEmpathyGuy.com and make sure to grab a copy of '#ExcellenceOffTheField: The Ultimate Guide To Mindful Empathy (how to prevent, manage & resolve conflict)'.

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