“I’m sick and tired of my kids’ mouthing off at me. How can I control my kids’ backtalk?” ~ Michael, Nashville, TN Backtalk is certainly something you don’t want to hear from your kids. It’s a surefire way to push most parents’ buttons! But can you control your children’s backtalk? I don’t think so. They ultimately control what words come out of their mouths. However, you can control your reaction to whatever they say. How you react will increase or decrease the likelihood that they will use backtalk in the future. For example, when your child uses backtalk, you might… Read more.
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Kathy Slattengren, M. Ed., has helped thousands of parents from across the United States to Australia through her online classes, presentations, coaching and books. Parents excitedly report their success in replacing yelling and threatening with calm, confident responses. When your children’s behavior is really pushing your buttons, discover ways to set effective limits, invite cooperation and have a lot more fun together!
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By Kathy Slattengren. When you walk into an office, a store or someone’s home, you immediately get a sense for that place. It might be warm and welcoming or cold and filled with tension. You automatically use all your senses to develop a feeling for a place.If you are a parent, you are a leader in your family. You have the primarily responsibility for setting the tone in your home. How does your home feel? Is it a warm, welcoming place for everyone in your family? A Home Filled with Tension One mom told me about all the stress in… Read more.
By Kathy Slattengren. Desiring happiness for their children is a goal shared by most parents. However, when parents focus too much energy on ensuring their children’s happiness, they can unintentionally produce the exact opposite results. How can this possibly happen? What the Research Shows Although it seems that children who have their basic needs met plus enjoy many extras would certainly be happy, this appears to not be the case. The United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention surveyed over 14,000 students in grades 9-12 in 2007. They reported “During the 12 months before the survey, 28.5% of students… Read more.
By Kathy Slattengren. Do you ever wish your children were more motivated in school, sports or playing an instrument? Many parents try hard to motivate their kids by giving rewards to encourage certain behavior or threatening punishments. Rewards and punishments involve external motivation which children often rebel against leaving parents feeling frustrated. Understanding Internal Motivation Ideas about motivation are changing as new research teases out some of the key elements. According to Daniel Pink’s latest book, Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, trying to motivate children using external rewards and punishment is a mistake. The secret for motivating… Read more.
Consider the last time your everyone in your family was having fun and not feeling frazzled. What was happening that contributed to things going so well? Below are some of the things that come to mind for my family when things are going well. Everyone is pitching in with household tasks joining the family for meals acting respectful feeling supported and loved remembering to let the rest of the family know where they are and when they’ll be home feeling like they have enough time and don’t have to rush healthy, getting enough rest and exercise having some time for… Read more.
By Kathy Slattengren. How often are your children thinking negative thoughts about themselves? Sometimes you know their thoughts are negative because they blurt out something like “I’ll never get this!” As they grow up, your children will be their own harshest critics. It is their own negative self-talk that they will hear most often. Everyone’s mind produces a steady stream of thoughts. When these thoughts turn negative, fear, doubt and frustration quickly sets in. Stopping negative thoughts isn’t easy and it starts with actually noticing those thoughts.What are your kids saying to themselves? What your children say out loud gives… Read more.
By Kathy Slattengren. Bossing children around tends to produce resistance instead of cooperation. How does the thought of being managed by someone else make you feel? Irritated? Angry? Rebellious? If you’re like most, you react negatively to someone trying to boss or control you. Your children are no different. They also do not like when you try to control their behavior. You can test this out by watching their reaction to commands like “Hurry up!”, “Stop fighting!” or “Quit your whining.” The role of a parent is similar to being a boss, manager or leader. If you shy away from… Read more.
What do you dream of doing? Thinking about your dreams and discussing them with others are key components to eventually making them a reality. A lot of people aren’t really sure of their passion or their dream. It can take years to puzzle together your passion and how you plan to follow it. It took me 30 years to develop and follow my passion! Hopefully my story will help you be patient and never give up on your dream. A seed for my passion was planted when I was a teenager and took care of children whose parents were attending… Read more.
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