Ruth Nemzoff

Dr. Ruth Nemzoff is the author of Don’t Roll Your Eyes: Making In-Laws Into Family (Palgrave/Macmillan, 2012) and Don’t Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships With Your Adult Children (Palgrave/Macmillan, 2008), and a frequent speaker on family dynamics. She is a resident scholar at Brandeis University’s Women's Studies Research Center.

She is the former assistant minority leader of the New Hampshire State Legislature, the first female New Hampshire Deputy Commissioner of Health and Welfare, and the first female Bank of New Hampshire Board Member. For over ten years, she was an adjunct associate professor at Bentley University.

She pioneered program development for persons with disabilities and started the equal opportunity office in the New Hampshire State Department of Education. In addition, she founded a nursery school, a counseling service, and the National Women's Legislative Lobby.

Dr. Nemzoff holds a Doctorate in Administration, Planning, and Social Policy from Harvard University, a Master's in Counseling from Columbia University, and a Bachelor's in American Studies from Barnard College. Her papers are archived at the Schlesinger Library, Harvard University. She and her husband, Harris Berman, have four adult children, four in-law children, and eight grandchildren.

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Entries by Ruth Nemzoff

5 Principles of Balanced Success

After having several successful careers, a marriage of fifty-one years, four children, and eight grandchildren, people ask how I’ve done it all. With hindsight, I see that I’ve always had these five guiding principles in the back of my mind. 1. When opportunity knocks, answer. Take every opportunity that comes your way, even if you don’t have a clue how to do the task. You’ll either figure out how to do it, or you’ll fail and pick yourself up and move on. Either way you will have learned something. Remember, you don’t learn to play tennis without hitting the ball… Read more.