How to Love Yourself and Live Your Purpose

You are enough, right now, exactly as you are. You don’t have to do anything to prove your worth. You don’t have to accomplish more, do more, or reach a certain level of success. You don’t have behave perfectly. You are worthy simply because you exist as a human being on this planet. There is room for you and all your messiness and confusion and pain. There is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all in this together; we are all just walking each other home. Are you confused about your life purpose? You don’t have to figure it… Read more.

As Is, I’m Here

During a weekend recently three big challenges came up for me and and I used one of my favorite mantras over and over again, “As Is, I’m Here.”  Saying “As Is” reminds you of the willingness to allow yourself to be exactly as you are in this moment. It invites you to let go of struggling with whatever is (your usual mode), so you can move into the place of healing that comes from allowing yourself to be exactly as you are. “I’m Here” reminds you to be keenly attentive to what is, in a way that invites your heart to be open to… Read more.

Milestones… or Memories?

I’ve observed a theme throughout life, as I reached adolescence and beyond.  This “theme” or pattern probably begins in our 20s, and I’ve observed it happen time and again to people in their 30s, 40s and 50s.  Though I have yet to personally hear of this experience from someone in their 60s or older, I am most positive it must occur to them, as well.  I am pretty confident it has the potential to make its way into every stage of our life. So what is this pattern, exactly? It is… milestones.  As we approach any new chapter – in particular, birthdays –… Read more.

Harry’s Perfect Moment, A Tale of Practical Enlightenment

It was a Monday morning and Harry swung his legs over the side of the bed. He knew something was different, but he had no idea that today he would have a “perfect” moment. Donning his cotton robe, Harry made his way to the kitchen and started his day like he always did by preparing breakfast for his wife and two young sons. He got out the usual supplies – knife, cutting board, bowl and fruit – and laid them on the butcher-block center island. Suddenly the morning took a new twist. There was a break in his routine. The… Read more.

Welcome Yourself Exactly As You Are

Welcoming means accepting yourself exactly as you are and also accepting life exactly as it unfolds. It is the ability to allow all of it, including all the parts of yourself and your life that you don’t like, and letting it all flow without getting hooked into the stories created by your mind. Welcoming is not trying to make your life any different than it is.  Easier said than done, right? I know it’s not always easy to welcome and accept life, especially your challenges, because you have been conditioned to continuously judge yourself and others. This is the inner voice… Read more.

Do You See What You’re Missing?

My eyesight, or lack thereof, has always taught me lessons. Back in 2008 and in my recent book, From Type A to Type Me: How to Stop “Doing” Life and Start Living It, I shared my experiences of having poor eyesight before receiving my first glasses. I learned a lot about myself through my microscopic view of the world due to my near-sightedness. Then, once I had the right glasses, I began to see the beauty and interconnectedness of the world. Now my eyes are ready to teach me the next lesson. A few years back I received Lasik surgery. For… Read more.

How You can Find Healing that Lasts

How would your life change if you trusted that your challenges are a part of your journey home – back to yourself and back to Life – instead of feeling that your challenges are here because you have done something wrong or you are being punished or God fell asleep on the job? What would happen if your illness, your difficult relationship, your demanding boss, your compulsions, and maybe even your troublesome dog were showing up in your life to help you heal? The healing you long for comes when you discover how to play the warmer, warmer/colder, colder game. Remember that… Read more.

4 Ways to Slow Down and be Mindful

Slow and steady really does win the race. When we believe that we have all the time in the world, we start living like we have all the time in the world. The more we focus on slowing down rather than speeding up, the more we add time to our lives and we create more space to be and enjoy every moment. What does living like you have all the time in the world look like and how can you begin to create this now? 1. Wake Up In Beauty: When you wake up each morning, do not think of… Read more.

From stillness comes discernment.


When you can love your memories of the past, your experience of the present, and your hopes for the future, you remove all impedance to possibility.


Loving ‘What Is’

The awareness that has shifted my life the most, is my ability to feel present in what I am doing in each moment. I have had a lot of experience, like all of us, yet knowing that I am here right now, this second, is the key to my finding joy and a sense of peace. It is not always the easiest road and I remind myself daily that being present is a state of fluidity and motion… there is no stasis. In this way I remember that a state of peace is always alive inside of me. I breathe… Read more.

The past is gone and the future is but a figment of our imagination: embrace the ubiquitous, magnificent gift of the present moment!


Allow Kindness to Heal Your Struggling Self

With the return of my son’s cancer, I have had lots of opportunities to be with fear and despair.   Sharing this journey with my son has taken me to a deeper level of presence than I have ever known. My body has been a very dear friend throughout this fierce process, especially my belly and my breath. Whenever I am caught in the fear-based mind, sometimes all I can do is soften my belly and allow a deeper breath. The belly is one of the best biofeedback mechanisms we have.  If it is tight, we are up in our… Read more.

3 Steps to Becoming Present

Take your time; there is no other time. Even when everything seems to accelerate beyond control – especially then – take your time. Time does not exist as an objective thing; it depends completely on your perception and your connection with yourself. If you are present, in touch with how you experience reality and open to what you are experiencing, then you are the master of time, not its slave. How do we do that? The method is simple: it has a few basic steps that require no particular skills, talents or techniques. It is called “practicing presence”. I imagine… Read more.

Learn to experience every moment as though it were a precious gift; for every moment brings with it an opportunity to awaken to your true self.


Schedule time for your dreams. Remember ‘someday’ is not on the calendar.


Our life is but a stream that flows by so quickly. Make each moment count.


Living in the Flow

As I’ve grown and matured I have noticed a recurring pattern in my life. Things move the easiest – business, family life, friendships, my goals – when I am in a state of Flow. What do I mean by “Flow”? It is a feeling of happiness in the present while having a positive expectancy for the future. But let me break it down further. The state of Flow has been described in different ways by different people. Tony Robbins calls it “State”. Jose Silva calls it “Expectancy”. Donald Trump refers to it as “Positive Stamina”. I believe they are all… Read more.

Turn off your cellphone and computer, turn off the news on your TV and radio, open your door and step outside. Don’t miss this amazing day.


Every dawn, a new beginning, every day, a free gift: live each as if it were your last – fully.


Today… is just practice for tomorrow.