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The Art of Authenticity

The words I would like to leave to humanity are walk in your own authenticity. While this may sound elementary, as I have walked through several phases of my journey, I realized I lost valuable time not being completely authentic. I am aware the growing process had a vast impact upon the way I viewed and perceived myself. However, decisions I made based on the environment, and peers caused me to present a facade which was not my character nor my stature. Authenticity to me is the ability to reach within myself and expose even to myself, my triumphs and…

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Finding Gold

In my many years working as a counselor and pursuing truth, there are two things I know for sure. First, we all need each other like the ocean needs the sand, and second, learning to be authentic is a task that requires truth, courage and commitment. So often in life people try to pursue a quick fix to their problems, and the truth is that any real problem worthy of being solved, does not and will not ever happen overnight. Finding gold takes time. Finding gold takes patience. Finding gold takes others. The gold I'm referring to is not the…

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It Never Hurts To Say “I Love You”

It never hurts to say "I love you". We know this. But did we also know that we can help each other grow by learning to say "thank you" as well? When we take a little time out for gratitude, we can accomplish miracles in our lives. We can connect ourselves to the inherent genius of our human heritage. We usher in new life, new hope, each time we thank someone else for their contributions to thought and to excellence; each time we let someone else's achievements shine inside of our own dear accomplishment sphere. Whenever we acknowledge greatness in…

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Creating a True Connection with Other Human Beings

I would share these four "secrets" for living: Being content and fulfilled in life does not really come from the success of your results. True contentment comes from being completely present and conscious of the experience of what you are doing in any given moment. Every relationship we encounter in our lives uncovers a part of us we need to see in order for us to become more aware of who we really are. BEING in your field of now means showing gratitude for life as it is, whatever it is and as it is. Do not mind whatever happens!…

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#1 Thing in Life? Family

For me, there's more to life than money. For me, it's all about people and relationships and in particular it's about the relationships we have within our own families - with our kids, our partners, and our own parents. Family life is the most important aspect of our true well-being - and so is the really important job of bringing up happy, confident, well-balanced adults - today's children - but tomorrow's future. For all children and for most adults, family life is the most important thing in life. It gives meaning to our lives - as it's a place of…

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How to be the Soul of Your Relationships

Our soul work starts with the ones we love, the ones who know our deepest secrets and our worst fears. These close relationships are the primary stepping-stones to learning how to love unconditionally. But bringing love and compassion to one another in these dark times is more easily said than done. So often our insecurities, disappointments, or expectations - stemming from our belief that the other person is responsible for our happiness - can get in the way. No wonder we want to run from or push away the relationships that most strongly reflect our darkness. It's our erroneous belief…

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Cherish Your Relationships

Cherish your relationships. When we think of the word "relationship" we often think of our closest, intimate connections with others such as spouse, partner, parent, child, family members and even pets. Yes, I believe we need to deeply adore and cherish those relationships. When is the last time that you told them that you loved and appreciated them? Do you know their language of love, and how they personally prefer to be adored? Some people like physical touch, gifts, quality time, acts of service or words of appreciation. Take the time to learn your loved ones' preferred way to be…

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We Are All Singing Your Song

In the work I've done for the past many years, I've enjoyed opportunities to introduce people publicly in a way that shines light on their greatness. One imaginative day not long ago, a barrier opened up for me to a more magnificent way of singing these songs. I imagined how great it would be if all seven billion people currently sharing the earth collectively raised their voices in song. How great it would be to hear all those voices harmoniously singing in simple celebration of the magnificence of being alive. Imagine all of these seven billion people singing their hearts…

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Accepting and Embracing What Is

As I am taking a deep breath on a crisply vibrant morning, before setting fingers to keyboard, I am humbled by the magnitude of this question. I gaze back at the previous chapters of my life with a blend of bewildered awe and 'if I knew then what I know now'. I imagine the steps and turns in the dance that has become my life and the various partners with whom I have taken them and it seems that it has all been perfect and then along comes a sense of wistfulness and 'if only'. The words of what I…

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4 Principles To Create a Magnificent Life

I made the most life-changing discovery of my life when I was 20 years old. I began to realize to fully grasp the fact that our thoughts and emotions are physical in the universe. I began to realize that time and time again, the thoughts and emotions that I was experiencing the most frequently were directly dictating how my life played out before me. When I made this realization, I had the "AH-HA" moment that I had complete control over how my life would transpire until I left this consciousness. It was one thing to understand this on an intellectual…

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Avoiding Relationship Troubles

We all struggle in our relationships with others. We want to be understood and to understand, but something prevents us from getting to the place we desire in most of our relationships. And, many times we find relationships where we just don't connect, can't relate or fundamentally dislike the other person. We waste time and energy lamenting these relationships, or trying to "fix" another person. The difficult person can consume our focus and zap our energy. I have learned that the root of our problems with others is that fundamentally we simply don't understand other people. We don't take the…

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10 Success Tips From Sir Richard Branson

Complied from an interview with Gail Lynne Goodwin at Richard's home on Necker Island. (Being shared with you today in honor of Richard's 65th birthday. Happy Birthday Richard!) 1) The Most Important Thing in Life is Family Our relationship with our family is the most important thing in life. As part of a close-knit family, raised in the countryside of England, Richard was strongly influenced by his parents, who still remain an integral part of his life today. 2) Live Life As An Adventure and Have FUN! Life is meant to be lived as an adventure and, equally as important,…

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How You Can Prepare For Your Destiny

No matter what life scenarios or predicaments you're in, just think of two words... adventure, adventure. We've heard the song, "Que será será, whatever will be, will be." Yet whatever is going to be, doesn't always have to become what is expected. Fate, destiny, karma, miracles, chi (qi), the Force... they're all intangibles in the invisible energies of the world/universe, yet their narratives, stories and conclusions are as visible as the ways they've been written and lived. We can't stop the next day from happening, yet if you're willing to work hard, you can prepare for the days ahead knowing…

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7 Lessons Found in Grief

Three knocks at the front door wake me. Two emergency responders greet me with news that my twin daughter is dead. She is 16 years old; me, just 40. An odd clarity washes over me... We are all rowing our boat across the river of life; all starting on the same shore, all going to the shore across the way. Some row one way; some row another way. The current runs swift in some areas; in other areas we can glide. Yet, in the end, we all get to the other shore. Eight years later, this I believe: What matters…

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Ready to Improve Your Relationship with Yourself?

Relationships are so important. When everything else has faded - our jobs, our possessions, even our health - it is our relationships that remain. They can contribute to a wonderful life or they can dismantle it piece by piece, sending us into the darkest depths of frustration. Lucky for us, there is a way to ensure that we always have good relationships. Learn and hold dear this simple truth: your relationships with others are simply mirror images of your relationship to yourself.  Do you know yourself? Right now you are determining the quality of your relationships through your perceptions and your belief…

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Love Forgive Listen Trust

After another loud, red-faced argument with my husband, I retreated to my corner to mentally reassert my rightness and curse under my breath. Our angry words hung in the air like trapped dust. We’d had too many of these arguments lately, and I hated how I felt. Like a shrew, the kind of woman who makes a scene in public and you watch, shaking your head and thinking, How could she do that? I hated too the inevitable aftermath: hours, days, of silence, polite avoiding of each other in the hallway, sleeping separately, and the only words spoken questions about food…

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Why Are You Reluctant to Stop Doing It All?

When the behaviors of a Type A are out of control, we can take responsibility for situations and outcomes, for the feelings and experience or others, and for absolutely everything around us. We think everything is our responsibility, and thus, within our control to affect. We fear if we don’t take care of everything needing to get done, there will be horrible consequences. The stress coming from being overtaken by our Type-A tendencies, eventually takes a toll on our mood, mental clarity, relationships, work satisfaction, and our health. The goal of this book is to help reduce these negative side effects of…

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