A belief is yours to choose… so choose with care. What someone says about you isn’t automatically a true reflection of who you are. While their words can tell you something about them, your opinion of their words are likely an important indicator of what you believe about yourself.
If someone tells you that you are ugly or beautiful, this doesn’t mean you are objectively ugly or beautiful. Instead, it informs you about the speaker and their thoughts in this moment. On the other hand, you can choose to believe or not to believe what that person says, and this choice can say a lot about you. The choice of what you believe is always yours, so choose carefully.
Ask for what you want… and be okay not getting it… from that source. If you don’t ask for what you want, you are much less likely to get it, so make an effort to ask. At the same time, remember, what you want won’t always coincide with what others want. When someone says “no,” be okay with that. Respect their decision. You don’t need a “yes” from them; they are just one stop on your search for what you want. Keep searching.
Be open to different opinions… especially when you know you are right. Even if your way is the best, you will often learn more by challenging yourself than by agreeing with yourself. Be open.
Share your fears quickly… before they control you. The longer you let a fear sit in your mind, the harder it becomes to overcome. Some fears can end up controlling your life. The fear of asking someone out can keep you from finding your mate. The fear of not being worth it can keep you from a wealthy paycheck.
Sharing your fear can be a great step toward conquering it or at least keeping it from conquering you. If you are thinking of raising your prices and you share your fear that people won’t think your services are worth it, the fear will be out there for discussion rather than a nagging worry in your head. If you set a goal to share this fear, regardless of the response you’ll get, you will be successful once you’ve shared it. Either you will find out that people feel your prices are worth it and your fear was unnecessary, or you will find out that people feel your prices are too high and you can use this information to provide more value or lower your prices.
Regardless, the fear is no longer controlling you and keeping you from progress. You are now controlling your fear and making decisions in line with reality instead of a fear locked up in your head.
Use the above ideals when you feel they will help… and don’t use them when they won’t. People often turn their ideals into habits they blindly follow instead of choosing which ones will be helpful in each specific situation. Use your best judgement, and choose with care.