To sum it up, I am a Woman Who Wants It All – and I firmly believe that I can get it, too. Nobody can tell me otherwise.
“It is not possible!”
How many times have I heard that!
“You can’t have it all. It can’t be done, it’s been tried before and did not work.”
The list of limitations goes on endlessly. Thank God I did not listen to them. I have a great daughter, am in a wonderful relationship, and love what I do. I am the American Dream.
Every movement, every idea, starts with one person. If someone did not think a different thought and act upon it, nothing would have changed, ever. Keep this in mind as you embark on your daily routines: maybe it is time to change one thing today so you can have a different outcome in your routine. Start by changing the way you think!
For every person who does not get that job, someone else does – that needs to be you. For every person who loses money in this market, someone else makes it – that needs to be you. For every person who wants to make the team, someone else is playing on the field… and that needs to be you, too. Be the upper, not the downer.
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you are right.
I admit that it is very difficult at times. It can be discouraging if you are stuck in a bad situation or have a few tough issues piling up on you. There you are, you can’t think positively, it is just too much! You are exhausted, battered and bruised and ready to just give in.
This is an experience that most successful people relate to. I certainly know what adversity is, what it takes to catch up from way behind the starting line.
So what is it that sets victory and defeat apart? It is your ability to stay the course and finish what you came to do, no matter what. If it was so easy, everyone could do it, right? The principles of success are easy enough…but the path to follow them is not. Yet you have to stay the course.
The concept of ego-RHYTHM says that your life has a rhythm, that you will have good times and bad times. There is no guarantee how long the good or the bad stuff lasts you only need to know that you will continue to come out OK at the end.
Make a want-it-all list. Write down what it is that you want, in detail, and look at your list often. Make checkmarks on the items on that list that you already have achieved, present and past. Look and see and understand how much you have already mastered, and be proud of that. As you still have a path ahead of you, you will probably mark off quite a few of the other items. Some ego-RHYTHMs come around more than once.
Apply the method of K.A.R.L. to your life. Know who you are and which ego-RHYTHM you are in. Accept that where you are is a result of the choices you made, and don’t judge it as bad or good it simply is. Relax, because your life will continue to change – and so you might as well start to live in the now. Live, and be present here and today.
Finally: Don’t worry about whether you get enough out of life but about whether you give enough to those around you. That is how you will be remembered – by your contributions and how you made others feel.
Much love and good luck.
Beate Chelette
a wonderful woman