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Life isn’t unfair… it is always fair!

Now, I can imagine the tremendous leap of faith that embracing this premise might require. We’ve all posed the question: “Why me? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can a good God allow such injustices to occur?”

None of us is immune to seemingly negative occurrences, but life’s events become calamities only if we make the conscious decision to make tragedies out of them. The storms in one’s life, while they have the potential of creating incapacitating turbulence in the mind, do not have to.

We might just as easily choose to view them as being in perfect order, offering us opportunities for personal growth. These so-called tragedies can actually become the driving force of change. The question then becomes — is there really such a thing as a negative experience?

The gift of each of these apparently negative events is a tool from the Divine that can help nurture our spiritual progress. The more daunting the obstacle, the greater potential there is for personal growth. From the ancient mystical text of Judaism, the Kabbalah: “The falls of our life provide the energy to propel ourselves to a much higher level.”

God has never created a storm that lasts forever. And despite the darkness of the most foreboding storm clouds, the sun is always shining somewhere. The challenge becomes adjusting one’s perception of events enough to recognize the presence of God within the experience.

In doing so, we must look beyond what the mind wants to judge as good or bad. After all, peace is not in finding yourself without any conflict or strife. Peace is the actual experiencing of God’s presence especially when your life appears to be inescapably in turmoil.

I have found that rather than lamenting so-called adversities and becoming victimized by them, I am much better off choosing instead to be grateful for them, embracing and accepting them as gifts from God, knowing that within them lie important lessons that can promote my spiritual development.

The difficulties we face can be a source of strength, enabling us to rise above perceived adversity. Accepting that premise, I am deserving of the heartache. I am worthy of the difficult lessons God has given me. The question then becomes not “Why me?”, but “Why not me?”

It’s all in changing the thought, changing your perspective… changing your outlook. The choice is simple: become the victim, licking your wounds while resisting. This will result in turmoil, pain and immense suffering.

Or you can transcend above the quagmire, choosing instead to be accepting of the magnanimous gift.

The key is to exalt in the falls of your life; Embrace them! For they offer us the milieu to transform, giving us the springboard to rise above the turmoil, disappointment and suffering, transcending to the place where understanding, growth, enlightenment and yes, complete healing occur.

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Dr. Terry A. Gordon completed his Invasive Cardiology Fellowship at the world renowned Cleveland Clinic, moving on to a stellar career as a cardiologist. But his contributions go far beyond his occupation.

One of his missions in life is saving the lives of our most precious resource, our children. Following the tragic sudden cardiac death of Josh Miller, a local 15-year-old football player, Dr. Gordon, as president of the Summit County, Ohio American Heart Association led a campaign to place Automated External Defibrillators (AEDs) in every junior high and high school in his community. Summit became the first county of its size in the nation to do so and for his efforts, the American Heart Association named him the National Physician of the Year in 2002.

Dr. Gordon then spearheaded a statewide initiative to place AEDs in every Ohio school, K through 12. Over 4,470 AEDs were deployed; more than 15,000 people trained in CPR and the use of defibrillators. At least fifteen lives have been saved as a direct result of this initiative. He is currently leading a national campaign called The Josh Miller HEARTS Act, a bill that will place an AED in every single school in the United States. The bill has passed the U.S. House of Representatives and is currently awaiting passage in the U.S. Senate.

Now retired from the practice of cardiology, Dr. Gordon’s purpose in life is to continue serving by giving himself away every day. He does so by sharing with others his insight to what we all desire: peace, shalom, and salaam.

This internationally bestselling author’s new book No Storm Lasts Forever, Transforming Suffering into Insight with a foreword written by Dr. Wayne Dyer was recently released by Hay House publishing.

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Thank you Dr Gordon for your message. I feel like I was reading my own message. I had a stroke in 2011 that left me paralyzed on my right side, with a lot of residual paralysis throughout my upper body. I am on the last leg of my healing, with full recovery in sight. It is my surrender to Spirit that is making it possible. I believe my stroke was a gift from the heavens to stop me in my tracks since I wasn’t headed in the right direction before. See my website at and download the 1st two chapters of my book Radiant Survivor, if you’re interested. Again, your message was very inspiring. <3 Erica Tucci, fellow IMT luminary

  2. Wise, insightful, and transformative for those in crisis. A change in perspective can make all the difference. Looking at heartbreak as a gift; an opportunity; a pathway opened toward spiritual growth, is both humbling and enlightening. The tentative first steps we take in response to perceived tragedy come from the choices we make, and our choices are borne out of the perceptions we have about what happens to us. Dr. Gordon has worded his article in a way that strikes an very resounding chord in me; and for that I am sincerely grateful. Karen.

  3. I love synchronicity at work. Yesterday, I began a week of giving gratitude for every experience–no matter the value of good or bad I would normally place on it. What an eye opener! And this post plays straight into that. Thank you, Terry!

  4. What about the families in Yemen dying of cholera? what about the Rohingia muslims who lost everything? What about the people of Dominica whose entire country has been washed away? The people of Mexico city whose world has collapsed around them? How is that not unfair?

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