“Someday is not on the calendar.”
Since 1988, that has become my motto. It was on a cold November night that year when my beautiful 23-year-old sister died four inches from my side in the passenger seat of my car. We were hit head-on by a drunk driver.
Death of a loved one, or our own near-death, always offers new perspective on what truly matters… and what is simply irrelevant or insignificant. It is an acute reminder of both life’s fragility and unpredictability and, for me, a “note to self” that while our dreams have no expiry date, our physical time on this earth does.
I no longer wait for “someday” to pursue what really matters. Near-death experiences can be extreme wake up call… and I don’t want to sleep through the alarm.
The time, to make time, for the people, causes or work you truly care about is always now.
Here are 6 of my favorite ways to live fully:
1) Put your true desire(s) at the top of your To-Do list.
Your desires are yours for a reason, and are often (if not always) part of your purpose here. And remember, the journey should be as much fun as the destination.
2) Decide what’s most important to you and take action NOW.
Don’t wait for next month, next year or the next decade. Even small steps can lead to big changes… make a move toward greatness.
3) Schedule time for your dreams.
Book a date or set a deadline (even a tentative one) to meet your goal or promise. The universe loves commitment; it implies that you are serious about taking action and then the universe will conspire to support you.
4) Notice synchronicity and act on opportunities.
Once you move toward what you love and “follow your bliss”, as Joseph Campbell said, “doors will open to you where you didn’t know they were going to be.” Check out what’s behind those doors!
5) Show up.
Be there for the people, projects and passions that count. Action begets action; and that requires “showing up” to do the work. If you want to publish a book, you must show up at your desk and write; if you want to be an entrepreneur, you must show up and run your business; if you want to have more love you must show up and give more love.
6) Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow.
Since that life-changing year of 1988, I’ve switched careers (from a pediatric nurse to a writer with an MA in Journalism); started my own business; become a bestselling author; lived, worked and studied on four continents (realizing an array of audacious dreams); and created unforgettable experiences with family and friends.
My crazy goals and wildest dreams have become a reality because I never forget “someday is not on the calendar.”