I’ve learned that I regret not so much the choices that I make, but the choices that I don’t; not so much the things that I’ve done, but the things I haven’t done. Not so much “mistakes” made, for there are truly no mistakes, only opportunities not explored. And there is the seed of growth and development in each of these.
I’ve learned to allow myself to become, more and more, the witness and the witnessed, the seer and the seen, the observer and the observed. And I’ve learned to do this with a minimum of judgment. Although not with no judgment, for there is judgment in simply learning to observe without judgment.
What matters is that we learn to love others, to give, share, communicate and interact with others in a way that allows them to experience this love. And know that we can do this even when argument or conflict arises and the setting doesn’t appear, on the surface, to be the most conducive to expressing love. True love is a state of being in which we exist by nature, although we may not always be conscious of it. And we express ourselves in many ways in this state of being as we continue to grow and evolve.
I’ve learned not to focus on the results, but rather on the process. For when we focus on specific results, be they money as a result of a job, or a specific outcome for a specific healing for a specific person, the most we attain is that on which our human, conscious, limited, educated minds have focused. Yet when we focus instead on the process, that which makes our hearts sing, the results – those which we’ve dreamed of and those we haven’t even dreamed of – manifest most exquisitely.
I’ve learned that we tend to make our choices either from fear or from love. And that we can’t give a gift we are unwilling to accept ourselves. We cannot stand in fear protecting ourselves in multi-colored flames, shaking off “bad” energies, spraying ourselves down with alcohol or protecting ourselves via other such rituals, and facilitate healings that reside in love.
We cannot stand in lack and limitation by adding things to ourselves such as healing toys, wands, jewelry, etc., and facilitate healings that reside in the abundance of us recognizing that we are truly enough.
We cannot stand in the need for control by following complex steps, techniques and procedures, and facilitate healings that reside in the freedom that comes from letting go of the need for control and allowing ourselves to exist in the elegant simplicity of being the seer and the seen, the witness and the witnessed, the observer and the observed. A state that we attain from letting go of judgment.
And even fear cannot exist without love, for fear is ultimately the fear of not being loved, of not being love and, therefore, of not being.