We all created a finely-crafted survival system to bury or numb our pain when we were young. We had to, as it was absolutely necessary for survival. Life was too scary, and we didn’t have the skills to meet ourselves in our hearts. Our survival system can include compulsions, such as drug and alcohol abuse, shopping, work, sex, the Internet, busyness, self-judgment, and chronic worry. I think about all of those years that I shut down the pain with food, drugs and alcohol. In one year alone, I gained 97 pounds. I would have died of the pain if I… Read more.
Sometimes we humans don’t like the change we’ve encountered, whether it’s a loved one passing, a lost job, or a lost opportunity. As Neale Donald Walsch notes, "Most of us have experienced events which we have called, when they were happening, the worst moments of our lives, only to find as time went by that what occurred was one of the best things that ever happened to us." These changes can feel absolutely devastating. We may ask “Why me?” and “How could this happen?” and feel that “this is a nightmare, this is not real” when it seems like our world has flipped upside down. Neale's book When Everything Changes, Change Everything shares extremely vital tools to cope with change, the very thing that is always constant in our lives. If you're ready to take a closer look at the deep issues of change and how to deal with them, check out When Everything Changes, Change Everything.