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By Lisa Cypers Kamen.

Having control over our destiny is something we strive for. There are many, many things we do to bring security, comfort and opportunity to our lives. We all work very hard to achieve the goals that we think will bring us the happiness we deserve.

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And we are determined to persevere. Innovation and creativity are something we pride ourselves on. Once we have met a goal, we set forth yet another, and another and another. This is not a bad thing… this is what it means to be in charge of our lives and our happiness, isn’t it?

But there comes a point when we tire of the quest for happiness through external sources. Of course, it is important to have purpose in life. Yet, happiness may be exclusive from our drives and desires that seem to fulfill our destiny. The possibility that happiness can be a constant in our lives is worthy of consideration.

After all, we come to find out that controlling our future is not necessarily something we are completely in charge of. When we tire of the struggle to maintain control over jobs, relationships, achievements and such, we at last surrender to a state of acceptance. We tell ourselves that what will be, will be, and this is certainly not an untruth.

We come to a state of acceptance and of peace. The desire to have goals and opportunities still exists, but these are no longer the reason we are at peace. Somehow, when we choose to let go of the struggle, life becomes a whole lot easier. And in most cases, everything works out just fine.

It is clear, then, that happiness comes from within. It appears that happiness cannot be defined by achievements, goals, relationships or anything else for that matter. Our happiness, or our H-Factor, is a state of being that is a simple choice we make when we give up the struggle.

Happiness is an inside job®.

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Lisa Cypers Kamen is a filmmaker, positive psychology coach, author, host of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio, professor and lecturer specializing in the field of sustainable happiness. She is widely recognized as an expert on the subject. Lisa’s acclaimed documentary film co-produced with her now fifteen year-old daughter, Kayla, “H-Factor…Where is your heart?” explores how people in varied circumstances find, generate and share happiness. In addition to her film on happiness, Lisa has also published a number of articles and books entitled, Got Happiness Now?, Are We Happy Yet?, Leadership: Helping Others to Succeed and Reintegration Strategies, about combat trauma and using positive psychology principles to create wellness in a post-war new normal. Lisa’s written work is featured on blogs for the Huffington Post, and and she is a TEDx community event speaker. In addition, she is the Happiness Expert for the Florida Department of Citrus/ Florida Orange Juice in its Take on the Day campaign.

Harvesting Happiness for Heroes™ is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation that delivers stigma-free integrated combat trauma recovery services to warriors and their loved ones. Modalities include scientifically proven strengths based Positive Psychology coaching and interdisciplinary tools such as film, yoga, meditation, art and creative writing designed to mindfully empower the client to achieve increased self-mastery, self-esteem and reclaim her/his life. HH4Heroes focuses on the balance of mind, body and emotion resulting in greater overall wellbeing and the transformation of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) into Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). HH4Heroes offers retreat workshops, one-on-one coaching, Battle Buddy programs, as well as our new R.E.B.O.O.T Online virtual community coaching classrooms designed to reach underserved areas. In addition, HH4Heroes deploys Return to Duty™ civilian and corporate training to help welcome a warrior home and into the community and workplace.

Lisa is committed to teaching Happiness is an inside job™ and helping others end their needless suffering through intentionally cultivating greater joy.

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