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I’ve observed a theme throughout life, as I reached adolescence and beyond.  This “theme” or pattern probably begins in our 20s, and I’ve observed it happen time and again to people in their 30s, 40s and 50s.  Though I have yet to personally hear of this experience from someone in their 60s or older, I am most positive it must occur to them, as well.  I am pretty confident it has the potential to make its way into every stage of our life.

Shutterstock_285328904 CopySo what is this pattern, exactly? It is… milestones.  As we approach any new chapter – in particular, birthdays – we naturally begin to reflect and take inventory of our lives.  Some people have a hard time turning a new age, like 30, 40 or 50.  They allow their emotions to fall prey to the ego that tells them where they are versus where they “should” be.  It’s the “Chasing Carrots” syndrome, the lack mentality. We strive to reach a goal, a milestone, and we aren’t happy until that goal is met.  But when we meet that goal (if we do), it soon gets old and comfortable just like everything else and we reach for more. The void returns.  When we reflect on missed milestones (we are not where we think we should be, planned to be, wanted to be, society tells us we should be, so on and so forth) we are vibrating on the frequency of lack. A negative, lower energy plane.  Based on the laws of the Universe, we are then met with more lack, more missed opportunities or milestones and more to be upset about.

Sure, sometimes we don’t get what we “want” or thought we “needed.”  Not even close.  Sometimes we miss the mark by what seems like an impossible to measure distance.  Sometimes we get close and fall just a tad short. Other times our road curves and takes us someplace we never imagined in our wildest dreams.  Sometimes we face tragedies that take us off course or stop us for a while. Maybe we aren’t a vibrational match for our desires, we are stuck in old patterns that don’t serve us.

No matter what, even when we don’t think we got what we “wanted,” and we wish we were someone else, somewhere else, doing something else, the truth is we always get what we need on our journey.  Where we are is perfect right now, and divinely inspired and guided.  I say, it’s not the milestones that count but the memories.

 We can change our path at any given moment or accept where we are and enjoy it. It is all up to us, it is all our choice.  There will be external variables that come up as part of our path and are out of our control.  That is life.  But we can control our experience, our attitude and our gratitude.  Ultimately, our joy.

If we are living good lives, if we feel good and happy and are sharing love, what else matters? Sure, we could be doing X, Y or Z, but we are doing A, B and C instead.  Embrace all that makes up your life. At the end of the long day, as the dark veil of night closes upon you and you reflect on your Earthly life, the beautiful tapestry you unknowingly weaved, you will cherish the moments you were present, felt alive and lived in love.  You will not spend but a moment wishing you had attained more or gained superficially.

So, you can spend your time wishing for something else, feeling bad and settling into the role of victim or you can spend that same time grateful for all the blessings you are surrounded by and taking full ownership of your experience here.  Either way, the time passes and all you have is right now.  This moment.  It’s your right and choice how to spend it and feel about it.

Your soul yearns for experience, grace and unconditional love.  Get out there and start living.  Toss out the “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve” milestones and start making some real memories.

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Camille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, Certified Yoga & Meditation Instructor, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3 girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and - well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, "The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self."  Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at

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