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Look for the Best Answers for You, Not the ‘Right’ Ones

When you’re faced with tough decisions, especially major ones, look for what will be best for you, not what the right thing to do is. You may think that the best answer is the same as the right answer, but you’d be wrong. Looking to do what’s right generally involves other people’s assessments or measuring up to norms or standards. Trying to make the right decision often comes from looking at your choices through others’ eyes, not gazing out at you in the world through your own eyes. The best decision won’t come from the most affirmative nods or applause you receive and it…

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You Have Everything You Need in This Moment

In this lifetime we can waste precious time and energy living for an external result, acquiring other's approval and needing things outside of ourselves for happiness. It doesn’t take long for us to realize that achieving goal after goal will not automatically create the happiness we crave so deeply. And when we live for something in the future, whether it’s a thinner body, the perfect mate or enough money in the bank to buy an island, we rob ourselves of the perfection of this present moment. We will find ourselves chasing a false dream, believing that when we have the…

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How to Listen to Yourself at the Deepest Level

Don't believe anyone who says you can't be happy. You can. Don't believe anyone who says that work has to be unpleasant. It doesn't. Don't believe anyone who says you should ignore your feelings or desires or wishes. You should not ignore that voice inside of you that insists things can be better. Anyone can be happy. Anyone can find a fulfilling job or career. Anyone can achieve their true dreams. How? Learn to listen to yourself on the deepest level possible. Learn to discover and uncover who you really are and who you really want to be. How? You…

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YOU are the Embodiment of Love!

Life is rich, filled with beautiful moments as well as difficult times. Life is a journey through the middle ground of the highs and lows, where you learn to find your sacred place of contentment. In this space of breath and awareness, you face life with a knowingness that whatever happens, this always remains true: you are strong, you are wise, you are loved and you are a beautiful person needed in this world. You have a higher purpose in life. You may bring certain qualities to everything you do, such as love, hope, faith, tranquility, abundance, truth, clarity, devotion,…

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Use Your Time Wisely… Simple Lessons for Daily Life

I would begin with the notion that time is our most precious inventory, and that the quality of our lives reflects how and where and with whom we spend it. The tragedy of modern life resides in the everyday Faustian exchange of time for false promises and trivial distraction. Free time is the only meaningful measure of a free society, and real freedom is always defined and defended by the option not to participate. As with knowledge and wisdom and peace, therefore, the path to freedom is subtractive, not additive. Things to do on a daily basis... 1. Whatever your…

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Don’t Do, BE

We spend too much time doing and not enough Being. Our lives are structured around activity: work, raising children, hobbies, exercise or sports, studying, entertainment (concerts, restaurants, movies, video games, reading), traveling, having sex, and so on. The list of things we do is practically infinite. Even when we aren't doing much, we're mostly likely thinking about or planning things we want to do in the future. We spend very little time just Being. We don't even know what this means and why it's important, let alone how to do it. When we are Being rather than doing, we have…

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Finding the Gift in Life

I'm lucky. I've been given a gift. It's not that I'm a successful teacher and musician for almost 40 years. It's simply the gift of life. A little over two years ago I was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia and the initial tests indicated a 10% survival rate. I felt as if I had fallen through a hole in the sky. Why me? I couldn't figure out what I had done to cause this awful disease. And then my doctor gave me a gift. She said, "This has nothing to do with what you ate or where you live or…

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Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work – Being Here Does.

The moment we stopped working on ourselves to get "better", our lives instantaneously transformed. This has profoundly impacted everything. What we have learned is not to take ourselves so seriously and to not work so hard to get somewhere. We have been raised in a forward-thinking culture where we have learned that something in the future will produce the sense of well-being or "OKness" that we all strive to achieve. It is this very striving, we've discovered, that produces dissatisfaction. The constant need to achieve what we think is better than what we have in the current moment stresses our…

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The Journey to a Meaningful Life

I am grateful to offer my perspective on the pathway to a meaningful life. I hope that these insights assist you on your journey. I have found these to be the basic principles of a well lived life: Know we are life itself Express life with passionate loving intent Experience the privilege of forgiving others and accept forgiveness graciously Celebrate daily Live life a moment at a time When we understand that we are life itself, it frees us from the unconscious terror of feeling alone. We become aware that we are the very breath that sustains the bodies we inhabit.…

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Make Time for What Matters Now, Not ‘Someday’

“Someday is not on the calendar.” Since 1988, that has become my motto. It was on a cold November night that year when my beautiful 23-year-old sister died four inches from my side in the passenger seat of my car. We were hit head-on by a drunk driver. Death of a loved one, or our own near-death, always offers new perspective on what truly matters… and what is simply irrelevant or insignificant. It is an acute reminder of both life’s fragility and unpredictability and, for me, a “note to self” that while our dreams have no expiry date, our physical…

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