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In this lifetime we can waste precious time and energy living for an external result, acquiring other’s approval and needing things outside of ourselves for happiness.

It doesn’t take long for us to realize that achieving goal after goal will not automatically create the happiness we crave so deeply. And when we live for something in the future, whether it’s a thinner body, the perfect mate or enough money in the bank to buy an island, we rob ourselves of the perfection of this present moment.

We will find ourselves chasing a false dream, believing that when we have the perfect body, then we will be happy and healthy. And then we realize that thin doesn’t equal healthy.

We date person after person searching for the perfect person to complete us because then we will be happy. And then we realize that the only person that can truly make us happy is ourself.

And we try everything in our power to accumulate riches, thinking that if only I had enough money, then I would finally be ok. And then we find that money truly doesn’t buy happiness.

When you begin fully living in this present moment and you accept all the imperfections of your life, you realize that even if you don’t have the perfect body, perfect mate or millions of dollars, there is absolutely nothing that you cannot give yourself right now.

You can feel love if you choose too. You can feel happy if you desire it enough. And you can feel secure if you rest in the power of the universe.

The truth is we can give ourselves absolutely everything that we would ever need. This truth however isn’t conducive for high sales and it is therefore hidden from us.

You don’t need anything from anyone and you certainly don’t need approval from others. When you love yourself fully it doesn’t matter if someone is disproving of you.

When you can stand in the mirror and say, “Yes I have flaws and I still love myself”, it’s irrelevant what someone’s judgements of you are.

And when you finally let go of needing anything or anyone outside of yourself, everything you could ever desire will come rushing into your life so fast you won’t believe it was ever missing.

The best part about this though, you won’t even care that it showed up because you were already happy before it got there.

When your ideal body shows up and your clothes are falling off, you won’t be surprised.

When that perfect person shows up and wants to spend time with you, it will feel as easy as opening a cupboard.

And when abundance flows into your life though money and opportunities, you will greet it without grasp or fear.

All you have is this present moment, exactly as you are today…. How do you want to live it?

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Michelle Hastie is the author of The Weight Loss Shift: Be More, Weigh Less and a contributor to the women’s studies bestseller, Women Will Save the World. A weight loss coach, Michelle helps chronic dieters surrender to their body wisdom in order to lose weight permanently. Using a blend of science, psychology, and spirituality, Michelle helps people live incredible lives in bodies they love!

She has a background in personal training, food psychology, neuro-linguistic programming, and yoga, and has been featured in SHAPE magazine over a dozen times for her life-changing gift of transforming lives, one body at a time.

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This Post Has 16 Comments

  1. MIchelle, you have done it again! Wisdom for life’s situations broken down so that we can learn, reprogram and succeed! <3 it!

  2. This is so absolutely true and can never be repeated enough. The world is our mirror and will reflect back to us what we believe about ourselves. If we are unhappy, we take that unhappiness with us wherever we go and no matter what form our lives or bodies take. It’s not the external that is the problem, it’s the belief that is the problem. So if I believe I’m not pretty…I could lose 500 pounds…but unless I”ve lost the BELIEF…then I’ll still feel not pretty.

    Thanks for a well-written piece!! xoxo ~Niloofar

  3. good stuff michelle…

    be thankful for everything, and ask, “what did i learn from this”…its happening for you , not to you….when its “sunny and warm” btwn your ears, luck , love, and adventure are near…

    read your article twice…thanks

  4. No one requires approval from others in order to be happy within their own mind. When you accept yourself, flaws as well as the multitude of wonderful qualities, you will be content. Thanks for the reminder Michelle.

  5. Thank you for reminding:) Sometime I look at the glass, half empty instead I should look at the glass, half full; then this reminder turn me to look again to be fully full to the present moment. Love

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