How do I embrace change?
The way that we answer this question can be life defining. Change is a constant. It is important that we learn how to adapt to life in order to find that balance between the external and internal environment that we call health.
Change requires more than just a new, exciting tool in order to be sustainable. It requires seeing things with new eyes and letting go. Change that sticks requires personal transformation. How do we get there? Transformation requires that there be a path that works and can be followed in community, even if it is only one other person making the journey with us.
The path to transformation is rooted in safe space. This space is a confidential holding of whatever comes up without trying to fix it. Within this safe space the following explorations can help to consistently begin again. For ease, they can be remembered as PQRRS.
1. Practice. A daily focus is important, and the ground of this daily focus is the cultivation of awareness. Find a way to Stop. When we find a way to Stop, even for a single breath, we can stand beside the rollicking stream of our thoughts, roles and experiences, instead of just going along for the ride.
When we stop, we can become calm and rest. When we are at rest, we can do the often difficult work of healing-looking at those parts of our life that we have previously judged as too difficult. We can build strength in our ability to gently and persistently begin again.
2. Question. Questioning opens up our life to the potential for understanding. We can ask ourselves “Where am I?” and continue to ask that question until the answer is “in the Here and Now”. When we are present, we can ask ourselves why and how we are experiencing whatever is going on, without judgment or expectation.
3. Reframe. We can bring the new understanding and insight that arises from questioning to our past pains, future fears and present experiences, seeing them from a new perspective.
4. Respond. We can choose from an unlimited universe of options concerning how we want to move forward in our life, instead of just reacting based on past experience, old habits or future worries. We can be responsible participants in our life instead of submissive sufferers.
5. Surrender. After we have chosen how to respond, we can let go of our need to control the outcome. We show up in the present moment, be true to ourselves and let go of what happens next. This is an act that waters the seeds of trust and patience within us.
Life is not static perfection. There will always be imbalances. PQRRS can help us to begin again and allow sustainable change to flow from the inside out.