“My husband and I keep getting hit hard financially. One bad break after the next, I feel like I’m drowning. It has to get taken care of, so it will, but how do I go about life without feeling totally defeated?” ~ Laura, Louisville, KT
It is such a challenge not to say “No!” when life circumstances show up in a way that you don’t prefer. The game is to leave your history alone and move forward. When you judge yourself or others for why things are the way they are, then things get heavy and it makes it so much more difficult to simply fully engage in taking action to resolve the situation (in this case, financial concerns).
Many people think that the only way to insure that they don’t repeat a “bad” behavior or repeat getting into debt, for example, is by being hard on themselves and chastising themselves or anybody related to them. This is not true. Being kind to yourself is key. The time you spend complaining to yourself about what you have done or haven’t done is time spent not discovering solutions because you can only do one thing at a time – complain or find a solution.
Here is a simple tip: Start Small and Keep Going.
Start handling those little incompletions in your life and your worries will become manageable or even disappear. If you are really there while you are doing even the most mundane of activities, such as washing the dishes or sweeping the floor or answering emails, you’ll be back in the flow of your life and a stronger version of yourself. This will empower you to tackle even the most challenging of circumstances.
You can either put your attention on your self-recriminating (or blaming) thoughts or take care of what is right in front of you. Here is an example of how one woman turned around her debt and discovered well-being in the process. You may also find the following episodes of our Being Here radio show supportive: Money and The Moment; Money Matters; Living a Complaint Free, Drama Free Life; Wealth as a Lifestyle; Living In A Drama-Free Zone; and Driven to Drama.
Ariel and Shya Kane