By Lisa Cypers Kamen.
Here are a couple of self-reflection questions and secrets to a happy life.
Ask: If I had one day left, would I forgive the person who hurt me most? Could I do so without demanding any form of punishment? Who are the people in your life who deserve your forgiveness? You will be surprised how wonderful you feel when you forgive – you may feel free.
Miracles happen every day, when we least expect them. Have the belief that they can happen for you.
Your value isn’t determined by the amount of money you make or the clothes you wear but by the lives you have touched, the relationships you have and cultivate and by the kind of person you are. Realize the importance of those intangible things in your life: love, compassion, friendship and passion.
Ask: If this were my last day, how would I choose to spend it? Where would I go? What would I hope to see? Would I offer anyone an apology or seek forgiveness from them? What music would be the soundtrack of my final day? What is my life purpose and legacy? What is my perfect day? Go and live your life as if it were your last day. Do it now,
Hopefully this has guided your reflection and thinking as you live your life day-to-day. Self-reflection can have a powerful impact. Keep looking for those things that make you happy every day!
Lisa Cypers Kamen is a filmmaker, positive psychology coach, author, host of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio, professor and lecturer specializing in the field of sustainable happiness. She is widely recognized as an expert on the subject. Lisa’s acclaimed documentary film co-produced with her now fifteen year-old daughter, Kayla, “H-Factor…Where is your heart?” explores how people in varied circumstances find, generate and share happiness. In addition to her film on happiness, Lisa has also published a number of articles and books entitled, Got Happiness Now?, Are We Happy Yet?, Leadership: Helping Others to Succeed and Reintegration Strategies, about combat trauma and using positive psychology principles to create wellness in a post-war new normal. Lisa’s written work is featured on blogs for the Huffington Post, PositivelyPositive.com and InspireMeToday.com and she is a TEDx community event speaker. In addition, she is the Happiness Expert for the Florida Department of Citrus/ Florida Orange Juice in its Take on the Day campaign.
Harvesting Happiness for Heroes™ is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation that delivers stigma-free integrated combat trauma recovery services to warriors and their loved ones. Modalities include scientifically proven strengths based Positive Psychology coaching and interdisciplinary tools such as film, yoga, meditation, art and creative writing designed to mindfully empower the client to achieve increased self-mastery, self-esteem and reclaim her/his life. HH4Heroes focuses on the balance of mind, body and emotion resulting in greater overall wellbeing and the transformation of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) into Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). HH4Heroes offers retreat workshops, one-on-one coaching, Battle Buddy programs, as well as our new R.E.B.O.O.T Online virtual community coaching classrooms designed to reach underserved areas. In addition, HH4Heroes deploys Return to Duty™ civilian and corporate training to help welcome a warrior home and into the community and workplace.
Lisa is committed to teaching Happiness is an inside job™ and helping others end their needless suffering through intentionally cultivating greater joy.
You know, until recently, I never knew what forgiveness meant. I always thought forgiveness meant that you let go of what the person did. That you were basically saying that it was okay what the person did. I also thought forgiveness was for the person that did wrong. That was until I realized that forgiveness has nothing to do with the person who did wrong, it has to do with me. It has to do with me who is doing the forgiving. It is me doing the forgiving and it is releasing me from the pain and it doesn’t mean that the person is not at fault. It just means I am letting go of the anger. I have not told the person that I give him. Because it’s not for him….
Greetings Marcelina!
Ahhh…forgiveness! Another key component to greater happiness. Forgiving our self for judging our self is number one then forgiveness radiating out into the world for what we perceive others have done. These are acts of grace and stimulate greater happiness by eliminating judgment and cultivating compassion.
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Hi Lisa This a beautiful Divine wisdom of secret to happy life. Nobody ever think about their last day in this planet. But if you think this is my last day on the planet then you know you would be kind and forgive anybody. This secret certainly bring Happiness into your life. Forgiveness certainly bring happiness as well as friendship.Again you pointing out you value is determined by the lives you have touched, the relationships you have and cultivate and by the kind of person you are. This is very powerful and inspirational post. Thank you and my blessings.