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Bevin Lynch

Life is a series of choices. Choose to be happy. Choose to live your dream. Choose to live in the present moment. Choose to love with all your heart.

But what happens when the choice seems impossible? What happens when you can’t figure out what is the “right” answer?

When I was 14, I faced a choice that seemed so difficult that I tore myself apart trying to figure out what was the right way to go. While the decision itself seems fairly trivial looking back, the wisdom that came out of it has stayed with me every day.

After three hours of debating with my dad about what to do, he said to me, “You make the best decision you can with the information you have at hand. If in six months or six weeks or six days you make a different decision, it’s not that today’s decision was wrong. You simply have more information and you are making the best decision you can with the information you have at the time.”

These simple sentences have erased regret from my life. I know that I wouldn’t be where I am today without the decisions that I have made along the way.

Several years later I went to visit my dad in the hospital, where he was undergoing chemo for advanced lung cancer. While he was taking a nap I wrote him a letter, talking about the most important conversations we’d had and the memories that I cherished. As I left, I decided to hand it to him, rather than mail it from home in Chicago. The next day he called to say how much that letter meant to him.

That was the last time I spoke to him. He passed away early the next day. My decision to live in the present moment ensured that I have no doubt my dad knew exactly how much I loved him.

Within the past few years, I’ve spent much of my time studying happiness and well-being, discovering more and more that happiness is a choice. Well-being and happiness are innate, they are our natural states.

I’ve found that the less I do to chase after these states, the more I rest in them; the more that they support and take care of me, rather than the other way around. I’ve learned that there is no “Magic Tuesday” when everything falls into place and there are no more bumps in the road.

The only moment we have any impact or effect on is the moment we are currently in and that is where we must make our decisions from.

In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements, his fourth agreement is “Always Do Your Best.” I love the caveat to this – Always do your best… and no more.

At any moment in our lives, we are doing the best that we can. We are making the best decision we can, with the information we have at hand. And, knowing that there is no moment of perfection that we are working towards, every moment is perfect just as it is.

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Skilled in creating life/work balance, business planning and implementation, and designing project plans, Bevin supports her clients in reaching their goals and living their lives more fully and richly. Some of her past clients include entrepreneurs, small business owners, producers, real estate agents, Masters students, professors, designers and non-profit philanthropists.

Graduating from the Ohio State University with a BA in English and Creative Writing, Bevin is a Certified Advanced Transformative Coach and a Certified CU Graduate. She has trained with some of the top coaches and trainers in the world, including Richard Bandler, Pransky & Associates, Paul McKenna, Mandy Evans, Jen Louden, Steve Chandler and Bill Cumming. Also, she completed an exclusive 16-month apprenticeship with Michael Neill, a world-renowned coach who has worked with CEOs, businesses and entrepreneurs for the past 18 years.

In 2009, she joined forces with Angela Rose (founder of non-profit PAVE) to create The Well-Being Expo, which had its inaugural event in January of 2010 in Chicago. In 2011, she hosted The Well-Being Expo: Telesummit, which featured 14 highly regarded coaches, New York Times Bestselling Authors and innovative speakers from around the world.

Bevin works with clients in person or through tele-coaching and email, allowing her to coach people from all over the world. She has traveled throughout the US, Europe and the UK, training clients and continuing her own education. Her clients span countries such as England, Australia, Cyprus and Italy, as well as states from Florida and New York to California and Washington.

Her most recent project explores the possibility of taking the chaos out of wedding planning. She blogs with honesty and humor about planning her own wedding in "Planning Your Wedding...Without Losing Your Mind" at

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