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No matter what you’ve endured in life, you can “recycle” your experiences into tools and stepping stones that propel you forward faster and simultaneously bounce your baggage to the curb.

If you’ve ever felt consumed by your choices or challenges, I know how you feel. In my late teens I suffered two incidences of rape that left me emotionally scraping and crawling through a sea of shame and assumptions about what my life could then be. I left the college education I worked so hard to achieve and hid my secrets within a marriage while packing on an extra 50 pounds for almost seven years.

When our experiences confine us, we often define ourselves by default, which then dictates our lives. I’ve learned that it’s less about what happens to you in life, and more about what you decide about you and your life after it happens.

After losing my extra weight, my memories resurfaced revealing that virtually every aspect of my life was a lie. When I looked closely I saw that I’d built my life as someone else because I’d decided I could no longer be the person I wanted to be. Who do you give yourself permission to be, and why?

Understand you are a combination of who you were born to be, and who you give yourself permission to be —and you can change the ratio anytime.

Your rules and beliefs drive your choices and actions. If you modify the beliefs that are sabotaging or limiting your life, you can create new results just as powerfully. The key is to use your experiences as stepping stones so they propel you forward faster. By recycling your challenges for insight, even the hardest experiences reveal value that empowers you to reconcile those experiences and heal as you move forward.

Baggage is the accumulation of lessons not yet learned just waiting to be transformed into arrows of insight you can use to reach your goals.

That’s what recycling your experiences does for you.

Don’t worry if you struggle with believing in what you want either. Desire and curiosity is all it takes.

When I wanted to transform my life quickly, respected experts told me I couldn’t. However, my curiosity about whether I could along with my desire to do so empowered me to redefine my life from the inside out. I also connected with instincts I didn’t know existed.

Your life experiences are an untapped university of knowledge and information just waiting to be utilized.

Recycling mine helped me discover who I am, build on who I wish to be and create a life that reflects my true interests and passions. What I once believed would hold me back instead paved the path for a wonderful new chapter of life.

Instead of working hard to rise above your experiences, comb through them for tools and make them elevators that lift you to new heights in your life. The best in life and love await you.

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With a fresh, savvy business approach to life, personal strategist & TV personality Charly Emery, is an expert at “recycling” your experiences into tools that boost your results in every area of your life. All about efficiency, Charly is coveted for her swift, modern and effective approach. She is the author of Thank Goodness You Dumped His A** - Use Those Mr. Wrongs to Lead You Straight to Mr. Right. In it she delivers a straightforward business strategy that empowers women to own who they are in and out of the dating and relationship process so they can successfully attract the relationships they crave with power.

A natural on camera, Charly's raw intuitive and strategic skill combined with her life experience are rapidly making her star rise in the realms of self-help and entertainment. Most recently Charly brings her cutting edge coaching skills to television in the new reality series, "Opening Act," which debuts on E! network in July, 2012.

Charly possesses a background in corporate consulting, personal development, and most significantly, life experience. A trauma survivor herself, she’s successfully transformed virtually every aspect of her life. With a solution-oriented focus, Charly intuitively pinpoints the root causes behind your results with extraordinary skill and speed, before creating clear cut strategies for swiftly generating the outcomes you desire most. “Put Yourself First” is the message that permeates her work, and with a personal life resume, which includes healing and transforming every aspect of her life, Charly speaks directly from life experience. She has a flair for keeping it simple, direct and effective so you get the scoop you need to create the storyline you want for your life pronto.

Based in Southern California Charly balances her time working with clients, lending her personality for on-camera projects, speaking engagements and appearances.

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