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Growing up in traditionalism as I did, I found my freedom and voice later in life. I discovered that I could be so much more than a wife or mother.

I could be anything I wanted to be.

An old refrain certainly, but it’s old because it’s TRUE. Don’t do it someday, DO IT TODAY!

I began my adult life standing in the secondhand light of a man. (Traditional, remember?) Years later, I figured out that I couldn’t change, fix, repair or control another human being, as hard as I might try. I learned that the only person I could fix or change was me! And I am grateful every day for that lesson.

I learned that I must never feel responsible or guilty over another human being’s actions. I am not responsible. I can feel sadness, when someone I love is stuck in self-generated depression and defeat. I will be there for them if they reach out for help but I am not responsible for their behavior. Another lesson hard-earned.

In the first forty years of my life I loved everyone else and forgot all about me. I had been taught that loving and caring for oneself was ‘selfish’. Then a light shone out of a personal tragedy and it taught me the lesson of self-love.

Learning to love yourself is the greatest lesson of all.

I couldn’t truly love anyone else if I didn’t take the time to love and care for myself. How simple it sounds and how difficult it is to accomplish. Embracing that truth gave me my life back.

Education and knowledge is power: I am powerful and lead my life how I choose, answering only to myself. And with that accountability I have become a better, gentler person.

Without judgment (or hardly any, as I am human after all), I smile when I observe another human being’s foolishness for there go I. I keep my mouth shut when I observe someone learning their lessons. If asked I try not to tell the person what they should do, and how they should do it. Rather, I share my experiences and how I resolved (or didn’t) a particular challenge.

Finally, the Universe is only waiting for you to ask for something. My Universe is waiting to deliver to me whatever I desire and am ready to receive. Nothing is withheld; I have only to ask with a true heart. Whether it is wisdom, gratitude, love, health, friends, money or success, it’s mine for the asking.

The Universe delivered my heart’s desire and continues to do so every day and I am filled with gratitude.

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Author, playwright, and poet, Trisha Sugarek has been writing for four decades. Her writing had focused on stage plays that ranged from prison stories to children’s fables. She has expanded her body of work to include two books of poetry, a group of children’s books and her debut novel, Women Outside the Walls.

She has enjoyed a thirty year career in theatre as an actor and director. Originally from Seattle, she has worked in theatres from coast to coast and her plays have been produced across the country and abroad. Trisha lives in Savannah, Georgia with her two golden retrievers and her kitten, Wild Thang. She is currently at work on her second novel, Wild Violets.

Released in 2012, a series of 26 “ShortN’Small” short plays, small casts which are used in classrooms in this country and internationally. Trisha has written 45 play scripts.
Her children’s books are in AUDIO-books now for your smart phone or iPad. Stanley, the Stalwart Dragon is first and is available on, and

She has published Monologues 4 Women, a collection of original, contemporary soliloquies for the strong female actor. Several are written specifically for the African-American actress. A chapter on the ‘dos and don’ts’ of auditioning and several classical monologues completes the collection.

Trisha’s plays and books can be found on her website,

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