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“I want to be closer to God. I’ve tried prayer and meditation, but I’m not hearing the answers I thought I’d hear. What have you found that works in creating a closer bond with the Divine?” ~ Judy, Tallahassee, FL

Dear Judy,

I believe that God is with us, inside us and around us at all times, and that God works through us to expand and grow.

I use a “commitment question” to connect with the Divine. I ask myself, “How may I best embody supportive love, appreciation and gratitude in every moment?”

Supportive love is unconditional. God gives you supportive love no matter what you do, say, or believe – and I can too.

God appreciates you and your unique path of discovery and growth – and I can too.

God is grateful for everything that happens as God realizes that it’s at your choice from your desire to learn and grow – and I can too.

The better I am at being in alignment with God’s supportive love, appreciation and gratitude, the closer I am to the Divine.

Elaine Starling

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Elaine founded Promise Power because she believes that each person is endowed with a passion and a unique reason for being. As we harness that passion, we can achieve great success—however we choose to define it—and use our talent to help others find the light within themselves. Elaine was inspired to create Promise Power in 2006 when she saw the need for unique tools that help people pay attention to their dreams so they will take action that makes them come true. Her determination to inspire millions of women to fulfill their promises drives Elaine to share her experiences and learning.

With over 23 years of international advertising experience, Elaine started Starling Media Services, Inc. to support clients who need strategically integrated media and marketing plans. She brings a strong customer focus to her work and delights in engaging stakeholders to create innovative solutions that address specific challenges. Her clients range from high tech to consumer goods, video games, and business-to-business firms.

Elaine has served as President and Board Member of Women In Consulting and is actively involved in the American Marketing Association. An engaging public speaker and prolific author, Elaine has written numerous articles and is currently working on her book, Maximize Your Promise Power.

To fulfill her own promise, Elaine and her husband moved to the Sierra foothills where she hikes, cares for her vineyard and orchard, and makes wine.

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  1. The past few years have brought me incredibly profound insight and inspiration. While I have been through extraordinary challenges, I have learned and grown immensely.

    One “epiphany” I have experienced is this: When I ask God “please speak TO me” – I rarely get a clear answer. BUT, when I ask God “Please speak THROUGH me.” – the answers are amazing, transforming and miraculous.

    Change your perspective. rather than trying so hard to receive God’s answers – focus on being a CHANNEL of God’s love, peace, grace and inspiration.

  2. Judy, your certainly not alone in that. I have and continue to have many prayers that seem to go unanswered, until they are. I found that it’s difficult waiting because we often start thinking that we are doing something wrong and that’s why we cannot hear his answer.

    That is the furthest thing from the truth. God’s timing rarely lines up with our timing, but he always answers.

    What I found helpful was praying for patience and peace while waiting for his answer. And of course continue reading the bible. Two of my favorite scriptures to mediate on while waiting are:

    John 15:16 ESV
    You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

    Micah 7:7 ESV
    But as for me, I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me.

    These are just a few of the many. Meditate on those and the time will pass quicker and before you know it you’ll have your answer.

    Praying for you!

  3. The conceptial mind understands god as a concept. A concept can be understood in different ways depending on supporting information in our conceptual mind. To experience true bliss, we must see beyond the concept, let go any idea of what it is and just be present. Have a cup of tea and focus on that and only that for 2 minutes, then on the 3rd minute let your self rest in the most comfortable part of the experience. Do not try to look for it, do not try to stay there. Just let your self go there.

    It happens the same way you wake up every morning. You do not look for it you only allow it. The same thing happens when you go to sleep. You do not look for the sleeping experience, you only allow it to happen. Being in the full experience of the human gift which is divinity only comes when we allow it to happen. It is there all the time and only requires awareness.

    Humans are the only creatures with the ability to create love: YOU can create love!

    Mauricio Kamadeva

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