“My wife died a few months ago after a long illness. She was suffering a lot, so I’m glad she’s out of the pain, but I still miss her SO much. My friends want me to start dating again, but I can’t let go. How do I recover?” ~ Nikhil, Arcata, CA
I am so sorry about your wife. Traumatic events sometimes feel impossible to recover from. I myself have lost a friend and fellow Marine to the war in Iraq. I recovered from that tragedy when I embraced it.
Accept the grief of losing your wife; don’t try and get over it. Keep focusing on how fortunate you are to have experienced her presence. Most importantly, create an empowering meaning to her passing.
As hard as that may sound, it is possible. In the bestselling book Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl discusses how even in a concentration camp, he found an empowering meaning to the hellish experience.
Perhaps your wife passed for you to discover your inner strength. I don’t know what the meaning is. Only you get to say. But whatever meaning you choose, make it one that empowers you and then condition it in your mind over time.