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Barbara EdieArray

Make Time for What Matters Now, Not ‘Someday’

05 Jul 2018/by /40 Comments/in

“Someday is not on the calendar.” Since 1988, that has become my motto. It was on a cold November night that year when my beautiful 23-year-old sister died four inches from my side in the passenger seat of my car. We were hit head-on by a drunk driver. Death of a loved one, or our own near-death, always offers new perspective on what truly matters… and what is simply irrelevant or insignificant. It is an acute reminder of both life’s fragility and unpredictability and, for me, a “note to self” that while our dreams have no expiry date, our physical… Read more.

Sophy BurnhamArray
When you come to terms with your own death, everything else in life is easy.
18 Apr 2018/by /0 Comments/in
Mary O'MalleyArray

How to Honor Your Survival System

23 Apr 2015/by /0 Comments/in

We all created a finely-crafted survival system to bury or numb our pain when we were young.  We had to, as it was absolutely necessary for survival.  Life was too scary, and we didn’t have the skills to meet ourselves in our hearts. Our survival system can include compulsions, such as drug and alcohol abuse, shopping, work, sex, the Internet, busyness, self-judgment, and chronic worry.  I think about all of those years that I shut down the pain with food, drugs and alcohol.  In one year alone, I gained 97 pounds.  I would have died of the pain if I… Read more.

Cheryln Cluse-HowardArray

The Best Way To Feel Good: Forgiveness

08 Feb 2015/by /1 Comment/in

As I was contemplating words of wisdom to bestow, I began to think about what I have done in life that consistently made me feel good about myself and what I have done to make others feel whole. Forgiveness was the constant. It isn’t necessary to explain the reasons or go over the situation, because that just brings up the past and everyone’s perception of the event. Without discussions or arguments, it’s powerful enough to just say it and mean it and accept it. Pride can be such a roadblock that it’s difficult to move forward in relationships and life… Read more.

Paul HelfrichArray

8 Beliefs to Launch Your New Worldview

23 Oct 2014/by /1 Comment/in

You have all the tools you’ll ever need to solve any challenge or climb any mountain you truly desire within you right now. It’s just a question of which you and which worldview you decide to create. Therefore, it’s always up to you to choose the kind of world you wish to live in, and the kind of ideals you wish to practice each day. As you continue on your journey, consider how the following core beliefs may be used to create your own new worldview: You are Divine, born in a state of eternal, natural grace which you have… Read more.

Matt MumberArray

What we can learn from the ice bucket challenge and Robin Williams’ death

05 Sep 2014/by /3 Comments/in

The life and death of two prominent and beloved figures were brought into our national consciousness recently: Lou Gehrig and Robin Williams. They brought joy to the lives of others through their respective careers in the limelight—one a professional athlete and the other an entertainer. They died in different ways. Gehrig died slowly and methodically from an illness that now bears his name. Williams took his own life after a long struggle with depression, addiction, and perhaps a different chronic illness looming in his future. Williams’ death brought surprise and sadness. We still ride the ripples as the media presents… Read more.

Dr. Eva SelhubArray

Making Room for Loss

08 May 2014/by /1 Comment/in

If you found Dr. Eva Selhub’s recent Ask a Luminary response on loss valuable, we invite you to read her more in-depth look at this topic today. I am often asked by my clients and friends alike how they can possibly manage or get over the loss or death of a loved one. My answer to them is always the same. You don’t “get over” a loss, you make room for it. What do I mean by that? When someone you love dies, it is appropriate for you to feel grief.  You miss their laughter, their strange quirkiness, their voice… Read more.

Dr. Eva SelhubArray

How Can I Get Over the Death of a Loved One?

02 May 2014/by /0 Comments/in

“I lost both parents within a year, very unexpectedly. I still pick up the phone to call them and feel such an ache inside. How do I fill this void?” ~ Jeri, Poughkeepsie, NY Dear Jeri, Your first step is let go of your goal to “fill this void.” I am not sure we ever completely get over losses; we learn to fill our lives up with other good things so that we do not feel the loss as much. Right now, you need to grieve. It is how the body and mind heal. The loss is a big hole in… Read more.

Sandra Dubose-GibsonArray

What I Learned From Grief

29 Apr 2014/by /10 Comments/in

The moment my dad died, my life changed forever. It crystallized the sobering reality that tomorrow or even the next minute is not promised to anyone. I had heard that phrase many times in my life, but to witness my father take his last breath when I was only 20 years old made it come alive inside of me. Although we cannot control when or how our story ends, we can maximize the time we have and create a beautiful story for our lives every single day. I am committed to get to the good part and not put my… Read more.

Akshay NanavatiArray

How Can I Recover From the Death of My Spouse?

21 Feb 2014/by /0 Comments/in

“My wife died a few months ago after a long illness. She was suffering a lot, so I’m glad she’s out of the pain, but I still miss her SO much. My friends want me to start dating again, but I can’t let go. How do I recover?”  ~ Nikhil, Arcata, CA Dear Nikhil, I am so sorry about your wife. Traumatic events sometimes feel impossible to recover from. I myself have lost a friend and fellow Marine to the war in Iraq. I recovered from that tragedy when I embraced it. Accept the grief of losing your wife; don’t… Read more.

Vicky ThompsonArray

YOU are the Embodiment of Love!

30 Jan 2014/by /5 Comments/in

Life is rich, filled with beautiful moments as well as difficult times. Life is a journey through the middle ground of the highs and lows, where you learn to find your sacred place of contentment. In this space of breath and awareness, you face life with a knowingness that whatever happens, this always remains true: you are strong, you are wise, you are loved and you are a beautiful person needed in this world. You have a higher purpose in life. You may bring certain qualities to everything you do, such as love, hope, faith, tranquility, abundance, truth, clarity, devotion,… Read more.

Sandra BeckArray

Doing the Right Thing When the Wrong Thing Happens

10 Dec 2013/by /in

We have all heard the phrase Life isn’t fair. Some of us who have read the Bible are familiar with the story of Job. In the Book of Job, Job is presented as a family man who lives a good and prosperous life, but is eventually beset with horrendous disasters that take away all he has, including his family, his health, and his property. Job struggles to understand his situation and begins a long search for the right path that will get him out of his extremely difficult situation. Against all odds, with God’s help, Job is restored to a… Read more.

Elaine StarlingArray

How Can I Move On?

06 Dec 2013/by /0 Comments/in

“Recently I lost my wife to cancer. It’s been a month and I still cry myself to sleep every night. I don’t know how to get over this loss and get back to living. I don’t know that I can go on without him. Help!” ~ William, Green Bay, WI Dear William, Your wife would certainly want to be valued, but she would also want you to have a warm, loving, joyous life. Be kind to yourself. Focus on tiny little improvements every day. Every time you start to feel sad, focus on one of your happiest times with your… Read more.

Rev. Sala ChrispinArray

Understanding Death, Grief, Healing and Living Now

02 Dec 2013/by /0 Comments/in
Concetta BertoldiArray

Understanding Life After Death Frees You to Live Now

12 Aug 2013/by /1 Comment/in

All of our lives here on Earth, we are learning lessons. In my life, I have learned from many teachers, both alive and dead. And I’ve always said that if everyone knew what I knew – how we go on in spirit form after we die our physical death, and how beautiful and perfect it is on the Other Side – they would not longer be afraid to die, or be afraid to live. Here on Earth, all of our words and actions are subject to the spiritual laws of cause and effect, also known as karma. Anything we say… Read more.

Trisha SugarekArray

Surrender Equals Peace

23 May 2013/by /5 Comments/in

The other night I had such a moment of clarity and sense of surrender that it took my breath away. I was listening to a track from West Side Story, “Somewhere” (Music by Leonard Bernstein, lyrics by Stephen Sondheim). Here are a few lyrics: There’s a time for us, Some day a time for us, Time together with time spare, Time to learn, time to care, Some day! Somewhere. We’ll find a new way of living, We’ll find a way of forgiving Somewhere . . . As I listened to the lyric: ‘we’ll find a way of forgiving’, my epiphany… Read more.

Trisha SugarekArray

Under Construction: The Sign I Wear Mentally !

25 Apr 2013/by /5 Comments/in

A famous psychologist (his first name is Phil) talks about the fact that we all have pivotal points in our lives; crossroads, if you will, where we can turn down a path of self-pity, victimism, feeling anger at the world and an urge to ‘give up’. Or turning the other way and seeking empowerment, happiness, and a full life. In August of 2006, I experienced a harsh, heartbreaking pivotal point in my life when my husband of thirty years died suddenly. He took his own life. Sure, I knew he was going through some kind of mid-life crisis or other…. Read more.

Kathi CaseyArray

Home Alone For The Holidays – Finding Joy

17 Dec 2012/by /0 Comments/in

This time of year so often seems to fly by for most of us, but perhaps not so fast for Baby Boomers who are alone. The many office and neighborhood parties, family visits, shopping, and tree lighting ceremonies can be difficult for someone who is alone for the first time in years. Many of our Baby Boomer friends and family members are struggling to keep the joy of the holiday season while their minds are full of thoughts and memories of a loved one who has recently passed on. It’s very difficult to keep a smile on your face when… Read more.

Edie WeinsteinArray

Rethinking the Next Stage of Your Life

25 Nov 2012/by /0 Comments/in

Imagine a GPS that is set on a certain course. You know where you want to go, you type in the address and then trust that it will direct you to your destination. One thing that the machine may not comprehend is that there are times when detours, accidents and road construction get in the way of an otherwise direct route. What does the voice in hand-held device calmly and in a matter-of-fact manner say to you? One simple word: RECALCULATING. Then it goes about its job of re-directing your trip. In 2008, my inner GPS did a major recalculation. My… Read more.

Sophy BurnhamArray

Angels Surround Us

19 Mar 2012/by /0 Comments/in

When I was a young girl, barely in my twenties, my grandmother (then eighty-nine) turned to me. I still remember the look in her haunted eyes: “I’m so afraid of dying,” she said. I didn’t know what to say. I fled. For years it lay on my conscious that I had let her down. Today, years later, I’ve had so many personal experiences with angels and spirits and the invisible guardians that watch over us that I wish I had a second chance. I wish I’d said, “It’s all right. There is no death. You are eternal – even your… Read more.

Gail Lynne GoodwinArray

Happy Birthday Mom

09 Dec 2011/by /2 Comments/in

My mother would have been 78 years old today, had she not passed away from a very unexpected, very sudden stroke nearly 6 months ago. She went from a healthy, vibrant, active senior, still working out daily and riding her bicycle many miles each week, to comatose within 15 minutes and passing away within a day. There was no warning and no time to say “Goodbye for now”. We all know that  our parents will pass away. It’s all part of the circle of life and is nothing surprising- until it happens to us. Then, life as we know it… Read more.