“I have been overwhelmed by FEAR of almost everything my whole life. I have been diagnosed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). but it all boils down to fear. I am 47 years old and want to finally live life instead of just safely exist!” ~ Nadine, Mountain View, CO
The problem is that we all resist emotions, even though we have no control over what first shows up in our minds. The Buddha refers to this as having two darts in the body.
The first dart is what shows up without our control. It’s the fears, the moment we stub our toe or any initial response to an external stimulus. The second dart is the reaction we then have to that response.
So when we feel fear, we judge ourselves as weak for being afraid. Or when we stub our toe, we blame ourselves, blame the door, blame something.
To succeed in life, we must get rid of the second dart. Accept the fear, or the first dart, without resisting it. Be with it, understand it. Then direct your mind to the infinite possibilities that live on the other side of it and take one small action in service of that future.