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By Lisa Cypers Kamen.

CompassionHappiness for many people is an enigma. Happiness is something that seems to be just beyond our grasp. For many people, happiness is a nice thought but not a lasting reality. Happiness might show her face in our life in glimpses, but she seems to peek through momentarily like the sun passing behind the clouds on a rainy day.

What does it take to bring the sweet, gentle flow of happiness to our lives? Is there one factor that can make happiness a deep and abiding reality for us? What is our H-factor?

When we embrace the age-old concept of compassion in every moment, we live with ease, and this is a tremendous relief on all levels. We simply choose, usually after some sort of emotional struggle, to accept ourselves and our life as it is. It’s OK. Whatever it is, it’s all right.

Compassion is acceptance of ourselves, warts and all. Compassion is acceptance of others in spite of their flaws as well. Living without judgment is a most beautiful experience, and it leaves the door wide open for happiness to come walking in. We choose whether to live in a state of compassion. It is no different when it comes to the concept of happiness. We choose. We are in control of our happiness. We are in control of our H-Factor.

This is one potent factor to remember if happiness is to become reality. You see, free will is a concept we are quite familiar with. But what does this mean with regard to happiness? It simply means that, as with all things, happiness is a choice. We are free to choose it.

Happy people are happy because they choose to be happy. They choose happiness, and they create happy lives through the choices they make. These are positive, proactive people who claim their stake in life by making the empowering choice for happiness.

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Lisa Cypers Kamen is a filmmaker, positive psychology coach, author, host of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio, professor and lecturer specializing in the field of sustainable happiness. She is widely recognized as an expert on the subject. Lisa’s acclaimed documentary film co-produced with her now fifteen year-old daughter, Kayla, “H-Factor…Where is your heart?” explores how people in varied circumstances find, generate and share happiness. In addition to her film on happiness, Lisa has also published a number of articles and books entitled, Got Happiness Now?, Are We Happy Yet?, Leadership: Helping Others to Succeed and Reintegration Strategies, about combat trauma and using positive psychology principles to create wellness in a post-war new normal. Lisa’s written work is featured on blogs for the Huffington Post, and and she is a TEDx community event speaker. In addition, she is the Happiness Expert for the Florida Department of Citrus/ Florida Orange Juice in its Take on the Day campaign.

Harvesting Happiness for Heroes™ is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation that delivers stigma-free integrated combat trauma recovery services to warriors and their loved ones. Modalities include scientifically proven strengths based Positive Psychology coaching and interdisciplinary tools such as film, yoga, meditation, art and creative writing designed to mindfully empower the client to achieve increased self-mastery, self-esteem and reclaim her/his life. HH4Heroes focuses on the balance of mind, body and emotion resulting in greater overall wellbeing and the transformation of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) into Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). HH4Heroes offers retreat workshops, one-on-one coaching, Battle Buddy programs, as well as our new R.E.B.O.O.T Online virtual community coaching classrooms designed to reach underserved areas. In addition, HH4Heroes deploys Return to Duty™ civilian and corporate training to help welcome a warrior home and into the community and workplace.

Lisa is committed to teaching Happiness is an inside job™ and helping others end their needless suffering through intentionally cultivating greater joy.

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