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A friend of mine wrote on his wall one day on Facebook, right after the New Year: “What Do You Regret ?”

My response was: Everything and Nothing…

So let me explain my answer. Everything, because if I knew then what I know now, I would have done things differently.  And… Nothing, because everything I have been through has made me into who I am today.

Now… here is where clients will tell me, Well… I don’t like who I am now… 

My response to my clients when they tell me this is the following. First of all, we all need to learn to forgive ourselves and others. If we are still beating ourselves up mentally, physically and spiritually and we are doing the same to others, nothing can change. As per one of the definitions of insanity – “Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”


If we don’t like who we have become first we must accept and let go of the past, and accept and let go of the judgment of where we are now. Then and only then can we move forward into a space of, I am fully committed to doing everything and anything I need to to move forward and towards what I want to achieve in my life now.

Never Ever Give Up your dreams. If you don’t know how, ask… If you are stuck, ask… We  must be willing to reach out to others and get the assistance we need in life to move forward. It could be a friend, co-worker, family member, church, mentor, just don’t do the woe is me thing, get out there and ask.

You would be surprised how many people there are that care about you – even total strangers that would be willing to help you, direct you towards the proper resources, etc… Key: nobody wants to work with a person who is negative and in victim energy mode. They are going to want to see a person who really wants to change their life and is willing to do the work to get there.

Stand up for yourself. Love yourself enough to be the best YOU ever, no matter what you are going through. I say this awaiting news for my 28th surgery. Yes You Can… If I can still be positive, so can you.  Let’s do it….

Enjoy the journey; life is too short to get sucked into negativity and despair.

“Life is a Play and We are the Actors-Actresses, Writers, Editors, Producers, Directors, Co-Creators of Our Lives. We Can Create Anything, Anytime…. Let’s Do It.”

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©2013 Carly Alyssa Thorne

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Carly Alyssa Thorne is the creator of Transformations Life Center and Transformations Life Productions. She is all about complete transformations of mind, body, business and spirit. Carly is an educator, speaker, wellness and fitness expert, producer, consultant and overall muse.

She lives her life from a paying it forward mentality each and everyday. Her core beliefs are that life is all about sharing, collaboration and teamwork. Carly's passion is creating, producing, directing multi-sensory awakening, grounded multi-media content.

Started out in the wellness, coaching field in 1986 consulting businesses, families, the entertainment industry and individuals on the mind, body, spirit connection.

Carly's chief aim is to bridge the east and the west using various methodologies.

A process that includes taking clients from Cocoon to Flight™ Thru Learning, Playing, & Growing™ thru Creative Conscious Co-Creation.™

Carly alyssa thorne opened her 1st conscious business in 1988 called Learning, Playing & Growing, Inc., empowering individuality, through arts, education, play and organic healthy nutrition and lifestyle. This is where her passion and curiosity grew about the the mind, body, spirit connections working with children, hospice and the disabled population of all types and ages.

The spirit of the disabled empowered her, to also look within and transform her own conflicts from having grown up with severe abuse and undergoing 26 surgeries to date as of 2012.

Her last wellness center was back east in 2002 - Celestial Wellness & Fitness studio, a boutique business she created after having lost her consulting job on medical cases for a fitness firm she worked for at world trade center tower #2. Having missed the planes by one hour, Carly got clear on a few things: Life is precious and I want to reach out to as many people as I possibly can through consulting and media.

Carly is currently in the process of writing several books.

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This Post Has 15 Comments

  1. I agree and disagree – everything does make us who we are today – but I would like to change some things – because who’s to say I wouldn’t want to be a bit different than the person I am today? Perhaps I would be living somewhere else? I love the job I have. I love my son. I have seen movies like the butterfly effect – even the smallest change can have huge impacts on the future, but I sometimes imagine what would my life have been like if I would have made a different choice.

    1. Oh I agree Knikkolette that is why I said, “Everything, because if I knew then what I know now, I would have done things differently. And… Nothing, because everything I have been through has made me into who I am today” I think we all wonder the key is not to get stuck in the wondering, if we it stops us from moving forward.

  2. Very nice Carly, I think if you commit to learn and grow each day, there’s little time to look back with regret. Sitting idle with little to look forward to turns our thoughts in the wrong direction. With that said, I do regret not logging in for those Kid Rock tickets before they sold out. 😉 (humor is important too) lol

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