A friend of mine wrote on his wall one day on Facebook, right after the New Year: “What Do You Regret ?”
My response was: Everything and Nothing…
So let me explain my answer. Everything, because if I knew then what I know now, I would have done things differently. And… Nothing, because everything I have been through has made me into who I am today.
Now… here is where clients will tell me, Well… I don’t like who I am now…
My response to my clients when they tell me this is the following. First of all, we all need to learn to forgive ourselves and others. If we are still beating ourselves up mentally, physically and spiritually and we are doing the same to others, nothing can change. As per one of the definitions of insanity – “Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
If we don’t like who we have become first we must accept and let go of the past, and accept and let go of the judgment of where we are now. Then and only then can we move forward into a space of, I am fully committed to doing everything and anything I need to to move forward and towards what I want to achieve in my life now.
Never Ever Give Up your dreams. If you don’t know how, ask… If you are stuck, ask… We must be willing to reach out to others and get the assistance we need in life to move forward. It could be a friend, co-worker, family member, church, mentor, just don’t do the woe is me thing, get out there and ask.
You would be surprised how many people there are that care about you – even total strangers that would be willing to help you, direct you towards the proper resources, etc… Key: nobody wants to work with a person who is negative and in victim energy mode. They are going to want to see a person who really wants to change their life and is willing to do the work to get there.
Stand up for yourself. Love yourself enough to be the best YOU ever, no matter what you are going through. I say this awaiting news for my 28th surgery. Yes You Can… If I can still be positive, so can you. Let’s do it….
Enjoy the journey; life is too short to get sucked into negativity and despair.
“Life is a Play and We are the Actors-Actresses, Writers, Editors, Producers, Directors, Co-Creators of Our Lives. We Can Create Anything, Anytime…. Let’s Do It.”
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