Consider this amazing fact: what you give attention to grows.
So no matter where you are right now in your life, if you practice three magic moves, you can expand your vitality and creativity while continuing to open a flow of love and connection with others.
The Three Moves
1. Do your best to speak honestly, rather than concealing the truth.
When you focus your attention on noticing your body sensations and describing them, sharing your feelings as they arise, and especially sharing what’s familiar in any conflict, you immediately open more aliveness in you. You also solve problems more quickly and free up lots more free time for creating and connecting.
2. Take healthy responsibility, wonder rather than blaming others.
When you catch yourself blaming yourself or others, simply take a breath to be present with what’s happening, then create a pleasant “hmmm” sound either out loud or inside yourself. Then add this powerful question: “Hmmm…, I wonder what I can learn from this.” Life then becomes a series of discoveries and learning opportunities.
3. Express appreciation, rather than criticizing.
Appreciation inspires connection and partnership. When you listen with sensitive awareness, you’re appreciating. When you tell someone something positive about them that you genuinely appreciate, you deepen the flow of intimacy. When you continue appreciating over time, your relationships grow in value. Appreciations can be simple and are best delivered out loud.
Don’t wait to be perfect or dig yourself out of whatever pit you may be in. Practice these moves and watch your life blossom.
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., A.D.T.R., has been a pioneer in the field of body-mind integration for over thirty years. Her explorations of the catalytic transformational power of the creative arts have been featured in many magazines, journals and books. She received her doctorate in psychology in 1982 and has been a member of the Academy of Dance/Movement Therapists of the American Dance Therapy Association since 1975. She has consulted and taught in the graduate programs of many universities, including the University of Colorado, Union Graduate School, Antioch University and Naropa Institute. She has an international reputation as a seminar leader for health and business professionals. Her seminars specialize in training professionals from many fields in the core skills of conscious living using a unique system of whole-body learning and Quantum Coaching™. Kathlyn also consults regularly for corporations and organizations.
Together with her husband Gay Hendricks, Kathlyn has worked with over thirty thousand individuals and three thousand couples in developing their method of body-centered and relationship transformation. Widely known as the therapists’ therapists, best-selling author John Bradshaw has stated, “I consider Gay and Kathlyn to be my teachers.” Kathlyn has authored and co- authored nine books, including: Conscious Loving, At the Speed of Life, Centering and the Art of Intimacy, The Conscious Heart, and her first book of poetry, A Waterbaby Contemplates Dry Land. Their best-selling Conscious Loving is used as a textbook in many graduate programs throughout the country, and their work has been reviewed or mentioned in Self, GQ, Psychology Today, Yoga Journal, Delicious, Personal Transformation, and USA Today. Kathlyn and Gay have also appeared on Oprah, CBS’ 48 Hours, Sally Jessy Raphael, CNN and CNBC’s Peal Personal. They consider themselves their own best customers in the creation of conscious relationships and are among the few relationship experts who work and present publicly together.
[…] When you catch yourself blaming yourself or others, simply take a breath to be present with what’s happening, then create a pleasant “hmmm” sound either out loud or inside yourself. Then add this powerful question: “Hmmm…, I wonder what I can learn from this.” Life then becomes a series of discoveries and learning opportunities….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com for Gay and Kathlyn’s last magic move! […]