5 Positive Ways You Can Manage Adversity


If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I'd want to pass along to others...

  • I believe strongly that what you put out in this world, you get back.

    I did not always think this way, and unfortunately it took a life-altering event to show me the correct path for me to follow. I suffer from a debilitating disease which tests my strengths daily.

    Here are five things that I live by and pass along to as many people as I can!

    1. Positivity creates positive results. Karma?

    If you surround yourself with dark, depressing negative thoughts or people, then you will lean towards that yourself. That is not a happy, nor a healthy, way to be.

    Find something positive daily and focus on it. If something bad, or dark is happening to you… sit back and look closely at it until you find something light and positive to focus on instead. Soon the negative will shrink away. It becomes so much easier to do this if you practice it constantly.

    2. Say “Hello” to your neighbors and smile. One smile spreads to another and soon everyone will smile!

    I always take the opportunity to help others as I wished people would treat me. Just because I am having a rough day doesn’t give me the right to take it out on someone else! Smile, maybe their day is just as bad as you think yours is, and your smile will ease some of their pains.

    3. Smile, lend a hand, open a door, pay for the person behind you in line at the drive-thru: the simple things will matter the most.

    I take every day as if it is my last, and as if I will be judged this day… I will want to meet my maker with that same positive smile and head held high knowing that I have done my best in this world and tried my hardest to keep some of HIS basic teachings alive. The Golden Rule now means more to me than ever before.

    I have been fortunate enough to have lived on BOTH sides of this coin: And now, I am hoping to help others regain a bit of the light back into their lives.

    4. Positivity creates positive results, always. Sometimes you don’t even know it happens.

    Having a bad day? Then grab a piece of paper and write down ANY and every word that pops into your head. Even if it doesn’t make any sense at all. Then sit back and read it out loud to the tune of “row row row your boat”. Guaranteed your bad day just got funnier! Simple, but efficient! It works every time.

    I have turned to poetry when upset about things. Writing has helped me, and now I reach out to others WITH my writing. That is my positive thing. Everyone has something; they need to focus on something good that they can do.

    5. Positivity = light.

    Light has always been a beacon and we all need light, hope, and a helping hand through the dark.

    Debbi Haskins

    I began writing at a very young age; it came very naturally to me and in public school I won numerous public speaking contests and short story contests. I was told that I wrote from the heart and I had a talent for reaching out to people and offering help and hope in my words.

    Later in life I wrote a column of the Fort Lauderdale paper speaking on the hardships of homelessness and ways to budget. Basically it was a last ditch effort to help those who were lost and had no one else around them that did care. I loved working with the Salvation Army in Fort Lauderdale, and with the people who needed to know that I did care.

    Now in this stage of my life, I have begun a new chapter with my struggles living with RSD/CRPS and all that goes with that. I have returned to my love of writing to help myself and others with my wit and humor entwined into my writing abilities. There is not a lot of awareness regarding RSD/CRPS, so every little bit helps! I wrote as a way for me to help me. In the long run I have found that I have helped out others that are in the same boat as me.

    I live a simple life, filled with only positive outlooks and positive reflections. If I can help... I do it.

    For more information, please visit authorsden.com/debbihaskins.

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