Life has shown me, over and over, that everything happens for a reason. We are all on unique journeys, and I am grateful that your path and mine are intersecting here.
No two human beings, not even identical twins, are exactly the same. So celebrate the fact that you are unique. Do not obsess about flaws and shortcomings. You are the person you are intended to be.
Instead of obsessing, make gratitude lists. Science has shown it strengthens the neural pathways that house positive thoughts. You can do this several ways. List alphabetically. List by categories. Or take photos of people, places, moments, and images that you are grateful for. A gratitude list will shift your focus away from scarcity and into abundance.
Once you recognize abundance, celebrate it. It surrounds you. Do not let scarcity blind you to it.
Accept that many things are beyond your control. Live in the present, since you cannot change the past or control the future.
Trust yourself. Trust your instincts. If you must be a people pleaser, please yourself first.
Connect with good people. Don’t judge them, and don’t hang around them if they insist on judging you.
If you don’t like what you see in the mirror, reinvent yourself. Learn a new skill. Adjust your attitude towards your abilities. Reach out to someone you might normally avoid. As you reinvent yourself, celebrate every step. Be patient. Change takes time.
Take good care of yourself. It will give you the resources to care for others. Set boundaries when you need to, but be willing to reach out and help others. It’s the best way to beat the blues.
Forgive yourself; forgive others. Humans make mistakes. It’s how we handle them that matters.
Believe in something beyond yourself. You are allowed to have flaws. Consider them challenges. No one expects you to be perfect. If you expect it of yourself, examine what led you to this belief. It’s fine to ask for help.
Take responsibility for what you believe. Take responsibility for the actions and energy you put into the world.
Explore your creative side. Paint pictures, sing, or write stories, poems, and letters. One of the simplest, most private places to write is in a journal. It allows you to vent, delve into issues, and untangle messes. It lets you analyze or celebrate. It allows you to finish a thought without interruption. The journal validates your right to be who you are.
Writing is therapeutic. It saves lives. Your truths are eager to come out. Let them spill onto the page, and see what doors writing opens for you. Your story is buried treasure.
You were put here for a reason. No one else has your unique talents. No one else sees the world through your eyes and experiences. Be yourself and share with others. No one can tell your story but you.