Tag: Thoughts

Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

We are our own worst enemy when we indulge in negative thinking. A major problem in this regard is that, for the most part, we're so used to our negative thinking that we aren't even aware when we're doing it. Consequently, we need to listen closely to the content of our thoughts. When we recognize negative, catastrophic thoughts about our future, we need to stop them and counter them with alternative messages that are positive and optimistic, based on truth, not fear. To be sure: Just because things haven't worked out in the past doesn't mean they never will. Just…

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- It’s not what you think – it’s what you feel.
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Want to Move On? Change Your Thoughts

Have you made a mistake by saying the wrong thing to your spouse or to your boss, or by committing a blunder at work, and then allowed yourself to think about the mistake long after it was over? Of course you have, or you wouldn't be a human being. Have you ever dwelt on the past and crowded out thoughts of the future? We all do, and unfortunately when we do we actually create more problems for ourselves. Expectancy Theory states that which we focus on expands. Ultimately for you to develop mental toughness you will need to stop giving…

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How To Use The Mantra, “Just This Much”

If you watch your mind, you will see that it goes into the past or future all day long.  It especially loves to go into the future and when it really gets activated, it moves from a whole different place.  It will convince you that that you can’t do it right, or you can’t do it at all, or something bad is going to happen, and the thoughts go on and on.   These thoughts are just not true because we don’t know what is going to happen.  All we have is this present moment, but you can begin to see…

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Try Shoes On For Size (and Comfort!)

It is so true that until you walk a mile in someone's shoes, you have no idea what it's like. You can hypothesize and surmise, but you really have no idea. Even when that "someone" is you. It's easy to say what you "would" or "wouldn't" do in a situation prior to living it. But the truth is, you haven't a clue. Until we are faced with a situation, there isn't a way to fully understand how it feels for all the senses and all the emotions that arise. We often surprise ourselves with our reactions to occurrences in our lives.…

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Bouncing with Style: Thinking about Thoughts

I have been reading about thoughts lately. I know that sounds a bit weird, but when I was in court a few weeks ago I watched this grandmother talking to her grown grand-daughter about how thinking too much gets her in trouble. I remember my own mother telling me that in my teens. “Thinking is good,” she said to me, “but, thinking too much will get you in trouble.” I have also been quiet lately - talking less since my radio shows are pre-recorded for the summer months – and listening more. I listen for message from the universe, from…

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Reflections on Freedom

We are born with the spark of freedom that burns brightly within all of us, no matter where we live geographically or what we may experience politically. Freedom is the opportunity to do what we want, when we want and choose how we want to do it. It's following that voice inside, no matter where it might lead and oft times walking to a different drummer. It is the ability to think our own thoughts and make our own choices. Collectively, freedom can be expressed as a small group or as a country, but it always starts within the mind…

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What is Your Destiny?

Destiny is defined as the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future, or the hidden power believed to control what will happen in the future; fate. Some believe that everything is controlled by destiny and we have little control over the outcome. Others believe that our thoughts alone control our future. Regardless of your personal belief, I hope you enjoy the following story which I found and loved... During a momentous battle, a Japanese general decided to attack even though his army was greatly outnumbered. He was confident they would win, but his…

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Sunset and Other Illusions

If you've been following my tweets and postings on Facebook for the last week or so, hopefully you've enjoyed some of our sunset photos. We moved to a new home in Montana that has some of the best sunsets I've ever seen. About a week ago I was out on the deck with my mother when something she said really hit me. She mentioned that the sun was setting and for the first time, I really thought about what that meant. Her simple comment made it an introspective experience for me. We all know what sunset is and can picture…

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Happy Monday!

Happy Monday! When I first realized I was awake this morning, I smiled and then I remembered it was Monday. I had a great weekend and would have been happier if today would have been Sunday all over again. And then I laughed, for what makes Monday any different from Sunday or Friday for that matter, but my thoughts about it? A day is a day and nothing more. It's the labels and expectations that my thoughts place on the day that make it different from any other day. The hopes, the fears, the expectations all come from within me!…

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