How You can Recognize Fear and Be Present

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  • Allowing yourself to be exactly as you are is such an important part of awakening. Author Jeff Foster, who is an amazing voice of consciousness in the world, talks a lot about acceptance and allowing. He says, “You do not have the power to accept this moment. You do have the power to allow it. This moment does not ask for your acceptance. It is already the way it is.” Jeff is saying that whatever is showing up in your life has already been accepted by life. It is all okay because whatever is happening is exactly as it should. This belief is powerful because you live most of the time in a mind that always wants things to be different than what they are.

    fear-acceptanceI recently took a trip out to Lake Chelan which is east of Seattle in Washington State.  I go there every year for a week of meditation. I experienced so much spaciousness in this beautiful place, but one particular night I woke up in terror. My son, who had just completed very aggressive chemotherapy treatments, called me earlier in the day. He said something along this line: “Mom, I am so tired of this. It feels like I will never get through this. I don’t feel any energy and I wonder when I will be able to get back into life again.” This obviously triggered my storyteller and when I woke up in terror, my first response was reaction. I noticed myself tightening because I wanted it to go away. Then, after just a few moments, curiosity kicked in and I dropped down into my heart. I allowed it to be there and I said to my scared one, “Oh, fear is here.  It’s okay.  I am here for you, Little One.  I see how scared you are.  It’s just fear, and together we can enfold it all in our hearts.”

    As I continued to talk to my scared one, it was just like when the sun begins to rise in the morning. Light and spaciousness surrounded me, and my heart burst wide open. This is the power of allowing whatever is showing up to be there and letting it all in. Just a few minutes before I had been completely identified with fear. But, as I continued to give my scared one the love she so desperately needed, I felt warmer and warmer, softer and softer, and my heart got bigger and bigger as I drifted back to sleep.

    I have a radical invitation for you to hold the possibility that whatever is happening in your life is exactly what needs to happen. While your storyteller always has an idea of how things should be, the truth is that life keeps on unfolding and it does not matter what your storyteller is saying. This is why I love that quote by Eckhart Tolle so much: “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.”

    The healing you long for happens when you change your relationship with your storyteller. It is not in hoping it will go away. It is really powerful to see it as the Divine showing up in a form that the only thing it requires is present acceptance. Give yourself the gift of allowing it all in, exactly as it is, and know that the more you awaken, the more you realize that the storyteller in your head is just smoke and mirrors between your ears.

    Mary O'Malley

    Mary O’Malley is an author and counselor in Kirkland, Washington. In the early 1970’s, a powerful awakening set Mary on the path to changing her whole relationship with the challenges of life, freeing herself from a lifelong struggle with darkness. Since that time, Mary has taught extensively throughout the United States, Canada and Denmark. She is an inspirational speaker who leads retreats that transform people’s lives, provides individual counseling, and offers ongoing groups where people can come together to experience the miracle of Awakening. Her strengths lie in her ability to be fully present in the moment, integrating information, technique and insight with simplicity and compassion. Mary is committed to helping people heal their inner wars, so they can become a part of the healing of our planet. She does so by drawing on her own life experience to facilitate healing and awakening in a compassionate and powerful way. Mary’s books, which are endorsed by Eckhart Tolle and Neale Donald Walsch, include: What’s In the Way IS the Way: Moving Beyond Your Struggle into the Joy of Being Fully AliveThe Gift of Our Compulsions: A Revolutionary Approach to Self-Acceptance and HealingBelonging to Life: The Journey of Awakening; and The Magical Forest of Aliveness: A Tale of Awakening.

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