Letting Go of Past Wounds

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  • There are few things I’ve learned that are more important to my relationships, than learning how to love, forgive, and appreciate everyone in my life. This has not only helped me heal from abuse, but has also taught me how to be present, because I’m not carrying around wounds from the past.

    I struggled in a relationship with the man who was married to my mother for over 32 years. He started making sexual advances towards me when I was 16. Not understanding his behavior, I wondered what I had done to deserve this from a man who was supposed to love me. I lived in the fear that every time I saw him he was going to touch me inappropriately. My mother got divorced.

    As I gradually was able to let go of my anger, I did forgive my stepfather. Finding appreciation and gratitude for him took longer.

    One morning, as I was journaling, I had the profound realization that I would neither be the person I am today, nor would I be doing the work I cherish so deeply, had I not gone through all those experiences.

    It was with this realization that I was given the opportunity to live out my new beliefs.

    One day I stopped at my mom’s house. My mom wasn’t home at the time.

    I saw a strange car parked in her driveway and saw someone standing in her garage. As I parked my car and got out, I was shocked to see it was my stepfather.

    I hadn’t seen him since three years earlier. After an initial moment of recoil, I had a sudden awakening. There was nothing to be afraid of anymore. I was no longer that frightened young girl. I had only forgiveness and compassion for this confused, old man. I walked up to him and gave him a hug as if he’d never done anything wrong. Sadly, in his mind, he never understood that he had.

    In that instant, I let go of 32 years of fear. It was gone. Like nothing else, our chance meeting allowed me to fully heal and embrace this lesson of forgiveness. He had come into my life so I could learn how to heal my own heart, and help others do the same.

    I felt only gratitude… and love.

    Andy Rooney once said, “I’ve learned… that love, not time, heals all wounds.” That was certainly true for me. It wasn’t time, but love that allowed me to heal. In a moment of forgiveness, my life transformed forever and my heart became whole.

    Dawn Allen

    Dawn Allen is a Love, Attraction & Relationship Coach, and founder of Inspired Heart Coaching™. She specializes in helping single, savvy, smart women who are having trouble finding and keeping a great men to learn how to be open to love and easily attract the man of their dreams. Through her group and private coaching programs, she teaches you how to attract the love of your life, and create a deep, magical, and loving relationship.

    You will identify and release any limiting beliefs about yourself, as well as patterns from the past that have held you back from finding the love you desire. You will become magnetic to the love of your life.

    You will learn new ways to respond in your relationships, eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors, deepen your connection to yourself and others, and discover practical ways to attract more love into your life.

    Consciously, intentionally, and deliberately, you will step into a new reality for yourself, your life, and your relationships.

    For over 25 years, Dawn has studied spirituality, positive psychology, and the Law of Attraction. Through her own personal development, she overcame challenges with depression, sexual abuse, an eating disorder, and dysfunctional relationships. She is passionate about helping you find love, and manifest your hearts’ desires.

    Dawn lives is Southern Oregon with her 14-year-old daughter, Lina, and their dog, Chloe. During her free time, she enjoys playing the piano, reading, writing, yoga, and dancing Argentine Tango with the love of her life, her boyfriend, Paul.

    Dawn is a graduate of the Coach for Life Coaching School, a Certified Dream Coach, Certified Passion Test Facilitator, and Law of Attraction Coach. She is currently completing her doctoral studies in Metaphysics.

    For more information about Dawn, visit her website at InspiredHeartCoaching.com.

    For more information, please visit InspiredHeartCoaching.com.

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