Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart

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If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I'd want to pass along to others...

  • What constitutes quality of life? Everyone has a different perception of this concept, just as we all purchase different cars, homes and have varied tastes.

    One similarity when we speak of the quality of life, is happiness, health and love. This is the trio most people strive for most of their lives. Everyone deserves to be adored. You could die tomorrow, and if you know you were adored in this lifetime, and you were able to adore and love others, or even one significant other, well life surely is complete. Healthy happiness can be found in your own love den.

    Giving and assisting people less fortunate takes you out of yourself, and sidetracks you for a greater good. I have found that I may complain about a health issue or financial issue, then meet someone in my day that has greater challenges than my own. I am humbled everyday by this. When the kids forget their backpacks, you spill coffee all over yourself, or lose your car keys, be present and mindful of everyone around you. You will come to quickly realize that your issues may be miniscule compared to the greater picture. Concerns become “Paper Tigers”. Paper Tigers are ferocious, intimidating, but they are paper.

    Try this exercise. Take yourself out of your head for a day and follow your heart. Use your heart as your guiding compass in everything you do. Start each conversation change out the word “I”, with a sentence starting with “My heart”. You will be surprised how much different your decisions might be, how your thoughts are determined, and what actions you take. Ultimately how you respond to situations instead of react. This simple exercise can change your quality of life.

    You may even come away from the day, with a profound feeling of “nice to meet your own soul and spirit”. Introductions to yourself may be necessary as you will be experiencing yourself with a much different perspective, coming home. Your heart radiates about 10 feet from your body, where your brainwaves radiate mere inches. What are you putting out to every life you come in contact with each day? Brainwaves, or heartwaves?

    Happiness and quality of life are intermingled with the path your heart travels.

    Alicia Vargo

    Alicia actively works with underprivileged women and breast cancer survivors in her community and is a self-proclaimed "feel good junkie." Throughout the year, Alicia pairs with Dress for Success to fit disadvantaged women with new and properly fitted bras. She has fitted hundreds of women in Denver, Colorado Springs, Seattle and New York – and future cities are on the calendar! Alicia also is a vocal advocate for breast cancer survivors, partnering with the American Cancer Society to fit women with post-mastectomy bras. She also networks with breast cancer clinics to ensure mastectomy patients have a place to get properly fitted for a bra. She employs seven trained mastectomy fitters on her staff at the Colorado Retail Store location. Locally, in November 2009, Alicia's hard work and caring spirit lead her to win the Leading Lady Award by Ladies Who Launch in Denver, an annual award that recognizes an exceptional female entrepreneur in Colorado. In September 2010, Alicia also was named as one of the Outstanding Women in Business by the Denver Business Journal, an honor awarded to only a handful of women each year, and she was a finalist in the 2010 Stevie Awards for Women "Women Helping Women" award. Nationally, Pampered Passions Fine Lingerie was named as a 2010 "Bride's Choice" recipient by WeddingWire. Later that year, Pampered Passions Fine Lingerie was named Best Lingerie Store by Intima, the leading lingerie and intimate apparel industry magazine. Alicia is a recognized authority and industry luminary on all things lingerie. As the National Intimate Apparel Examiner for she writes daily about lingerie industry and intimate apparel fashion trends. She has been a featured expert and guest on Fox, ABC and NBC stations as well as in Cosmopolitan magazine, US Weekly, iVillage and other leading lingerie blogs and sources. She is a member of the IAC, Intimate Apparel Association. Prior to becoming a lingerie entrepreneur, Alicia spent 25 years in the wine, beer and liquor industry as an advisor to the Governor. She also served on the Colorado Board of Agriculture and represented 22 Colorado wineries.

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    1. Lynne
      Lynne says:

      Today was not the day for me to see this. My heart hurts right now. I have tried this and the results are, we each have created our own little hell to live in. Of late I have exhausted myself in search of how I need to think and act. As of now nothing has worked. So I live in my own private little hell until my days are over. I m sorry that I sound this way reading your article, but I have no more to look for.

    2. Lynne
      Lynne says:

      It s me again. As you can see, no one has an answer for me. The whole world is texting. facebooking,and the like. No one wants or cares to face someone and have an honest talk. They would rather hide behind some electronic gadget. When their time comes to really need someone to talk to face to face in an honest exchange of words and emotions, I pray someone will answer them and MAKE the time to help them. Hope is just a thing of the past. It is precious, but no one wants to share that gift. God help us!

      • Gail Lynne Goodwin
        Gail Lynne Goodwin says:

        Dear Lynne,

        My apologies for not responding sooner. First of all, please understand that we DO care. That’s the reason we created this website in the first place, and why it’s free for everyone around the world.

        I understand that your heart hurts right now, and for that, I empathize with you. We all go through difficult times in our lives… and it’s how we handle the pain and disappointment that sets us apart from one another. Everyone has tragedy, everyone has sadness, at one point or another. But, rather than focus on the negatives and the hurt, I’ve found that it helps to shift your focus to one of gratitude.

        Gratitude seems to be the last place most of us go when we’re feeling pain, but I can tell you from experience, it’s the shortcut to feeling better. And, there’s always something to be grateful for- always. When we fill our hearts with gratitude, even for the situation causing the pain, knowing that in this too there is blessing, things in our life begin to shift. Life no longer seems so bleak.

        When we try to think our way out of a situation or a problem with our heads, often we sink deeper into despair. When we trust that the Universe has our back- even when it doesn’t feel like it- possibilities open unto us.

        Follow your heart Lynne, even when it breaks. Trust that your heart will only lead you where you need to be. Fill it with gratitude for even the smallest blessings in your life and things will shift for you. I hope this helps you remember that you are an infinite being with unlimited potential. Tap into your own divine magnificence and watch what happens.



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