Unlucky in Love? Check Your Belief System

“I’m in my mid 50’s and always keep my eyes out for someone to love but never find anyone. In my mid 20’s I was engaged to a really great guy. We would have married but between the Church and families and moving our plans just got derailed. After that I thought I was in love a few times but they really didn’t love me. They just didn’t. In 1998 I adopted a daughter on my own because I desperately wanted children. She is the love of my life. But I really wanted a whole family. So in 2000 I found someone who seemed to love me and I loved him, too.  I liked him a lot and we clicked immediately. At that time I had everything I wanted in life for a very short while, but 9/11 happened and we had financial problems, and he had sexual problems and snoring problems as well, which derailed us and we broke up. I haven’t found anyone since. I just don’t love anyone anymore. It’s not something I can force either. Do you see me ever having a real love life again in my life. And when – because I’ve been lonely so very long.” ~ Madison

Dear Madison:

First, I want you to look at who is in your immediate soul circle, and who your true soul mates or primary souls are there. Sometimes, people live their lives with the most important relationships as non-romantic relationships. In your case, you have a very deep karma with your adopted daughter—she is one of your primary soul mates. Much of your life has been about her. Just look at this, and recognize—you have not been alone as a soul. This soul, your daughter, is one of your primary soul mates.

Next… It feels like you are so different from who you were in your 20s, but you’re still using some of the old ideas in searching for a new partner. This is why it’s not working. You need to search for a partner who matches the you that is NOW, not the you of your 20s, 30s, 40s. There are a lot of old belief systems about the role of a man, what a man should be, what a good marriage is, what a good partner is… that you can just let go… just release them. Let them all cease in your mind, because they aren’t real any more.

To do this, it’s important to do self work. I would suggest you do The 33 Lessons from my book and audio course Writing the Divine. This will really help you sort out who you are now, and what you are really looking for.

Ultimately, no matter how you do so, when you let go of those old beliefs, the energy will start to move very fast.

Thank you,

SARA

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