From birth to this point in your life, you are an amalgam of your life experiences. They are the events and interactions with others that have defined you, from childhood games of playing house in cardboard boxes to tumultuous adult bedroom alliances.
Each scene of your life blends with the others to create your story–or at least the story about you that you’ve scripted so far. Your story is, in fact, just a story. The beauty of the life you live is that you can redefine or, as I call it, rescript your story any time you want!
You are the scribe of every scene in your life. So, you are the one who gets to choose how you want to be in your story, which direction you want the story to take, and how you want to interpret it. In other words, your entire life is based on your scene translations.
Unfortunately, you can’t see into your own future, so it is not always clear what the consequences of your decisions will be or how you will hold the resulting outcomes or stories in your mind. Like many people, you probably define the subsequent experiences as either “good” or “bad.” You judge yourself as “wrong” or as having made a mistake if things don’t work out the way you intended.
Defining events that occur as good or bad presupposes that you are a casualty rather than a power player in your own life. The truth is there are no mistakes in life, but there are choices.
Admittedly, some of your choices have been or will be better than others, but the beauty of having the ability to choose is that you are in charge of what happens to you. And with every choice you make, for better or worse, there are lessons to be learned and personal growth to be attained. That is really what your life and being in relationship are all about.
The more you learn and grow, the more confident a person you will become. Take time to reflect on your key life experiences. These events and your responses (or thoughts, beliefs, and ultimately, choices) to these events have led you to become who you are today. Your thoughts became your beliefs, and your beliefs became your story.
Now it’s your choice to redefine the experiences and rescript a whole new story to create the enviable new life you desire.