Here’s what I know for sure, Happiness Is A Choice.
There is so much more we are capable of, and through mindset and beliefs, we have the power to design our life and choose happiness.
The hustle of life is filled with people, events, and stimuli, there’s no avoiding it.
The weather.
Traffic.
People at the coffee shop.
Eating dinner with the family.
Stimuli encountered throughout the day aren’t ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ they’re neutral, and often cannot be controlled.
Everyday, we are presented hundreds of situations. The beautiful part is that based on our beliefs, we have total self-power to choose how to view, approach and respond to the stimuli. We control our responses. We control our happiness. We can choose happy, peace and calm just as easily as we can choose anger, overwhelm and chaos.
Stimulus → Belief → Response.
(Events) (Your Thoughts) (Feelings & Action)
Allow me to illustrate with an example:
Stimulus: My 7 year-old son, Jackson, was diagnosed with severe autism. He is currently non-verbal, working on potty training, learning how to communicate through pictures, loves spinning and sprinkling objects, and would often rather play alone than interact with me.
(Nothing is good or bad about the stimulus, it’s neutral)
Belief: My belief surrounding Jackson’s Autism is that he is doing the best he can at any given moment, I love him for the amazing boy he is, and I cannot control the past or future. I am what I think, and I choose to ooze love and acceptance.
Response: I love Jackson in the present moment and celebrate him right where he’s at. I choose a calm, peaceful, authentic environment. I choose to love first and take action second. I choose happy.
Does my Belief and Response mean I stop advocating, researching and finding Jackson the top medical and behavioral interventions? Not a chance! I do everything in my power daily assist him to thrive to be the best he can be.
Following the Stimulus→Belief→Response method reminds me that I am in full control of my happiness and the design of my day. Nobody else controls my beliefs. I choose my thoughts, actions and responses, and thus, choose happiness.
With a decisive strong mindset, a conscious commitment to core beliefs, it’s simple to shift from clutter, chaos and overwhelm to a place of peace, calm and happy.
This I know for sure, Happiness Is A Choice.
I think you are right! Not always easy to do especially with the challenges life can throw but most certainly how we choose to react to what life throws is what makes the difference You son is blessed to have you as his Mum as you clearly feel blessed to be his Mum Keep flying high
Thanks, Anne! It’s taken 4 year for my mindset to evolve and my new beliefs to emerge. I’m so thankful for the life lessons Jackson has taught me.
Happiness is definitely a choice and it sounds like you are making it! I just recently heard Kristin Neff talk about her own self-compassion that she had to discover when her son was diagnosed with severe autism. I loved your blog, your upbeat attitude and how you reframed the situation to reflect who you are as a person. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your kind words, Eva! It’s a choice I make every day as I practice gratitude and personal growth.
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Very nice and meaningful article…Something for all of us to learn and be happy
Interesting – and i don’t disagree with a word of it. But what if I re-write some of it? My husband is 89 years old and displays all the signs of Aspergers – including the need to control, the anger, the inability to empathise. For years I thought it was my fault,. then I realised But that does not make it easier. I am not young and sprightly. I have my own problems, but these must always be put on hold to do what he wants. He is also disabled so I do most things for him. In many ways he is like a 7 years old, but I cannot deal with him in the way one would with a young child. Every day i try to tell myself it is not his fault. but this has been wearing me down for over 30 years, and sucking me dry. I’ve read loads of advice on “me” time and getting away and meditation – you name it. To be plain, it is hard to find many thing to be grateful for – I can still see, and enjoy the garden, but can no longer do much there. I can only hear with difficulty and very short walks are the only ones I can take. I would love to choose happiness, if I had a few times when there was something to be happy about.
Veronica-Mae, I’m praying for you,
Magnificent Bless you.
This is my most convincing read I have that ‘Happiness is a choice’. You also taught me to be brave and face your destiny (event) head on. I have downloaded your article to remind me that. Many thanks for sharing.
Elaine, you are a beautiful person. Your story is an inspiration. Thank you!
I have gone through tragedy as a holocaust survivor when I was 14 years old .I despaired for my family but always felt grateful for my own survival .I did turn to god then to give me the courage and the strenght that I needed.I am now 90 years and still cry for them but feel thankful for the life i have had.Husband children and grand children.You can live with pain and joy . and accept the fact that life is made of both.Denise
I totally agree. Happiness is a choice.. it’s a choice we need to make on our own and not allow other people to determine it.