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In life there will be doubt, in even the strongest of minds and hearts. When in doubt, trust the body to lead you through it. Hand on heart, and the other on your stomach, ask if an option you consider is right for you. The heart will warm and feel light with a yes, the stomach will shrink and feel leaden or cold for a no. Your body may differ, but it will always give you equally clear signals, of what is best for you.

Don’t trust what your tongue says as it makes its arguments for or against a position. Face it, the average tongue will lie for chocolate cake!

But the heart and stomach are true and loyal advisors who will never steer you wrong.

Likewise, these bodily “Truth Detectors” will tell you who is a true friend and who is false. The true friend will leave you with a light, warm, comforted feeling, the false one with a feeling of sickness or cold heaviness in the pit of your stomach. Think of two friends – one you love and one you mistrust. Hand on heart, hand on stomach – how does your body feel when you consider each?

Exactly. That’s how this Truth Detector works. And you have it with you, all the time. Comforting, isn’t it?

Tread lightly in your journey on the earth. Endeavor to leave no trace of yourself, whether outdoors or in. Take extraordinary good care of this beautiful planet that is home to us all. Many more will come after you. Leave a clean home for all to live in.

And as you interact with others, remember that the most important thing is that you are literally the essence of love, you are very much loved, and it evolves you and others to be loving to all you meet. Love is the central emotion that powers all good things to come into and bless your life. The more you give love freely and without putting the price-tag of “that person must now love me back” on your gift, the more freedom the universe has to send love to you. Be open to it coming in a surprising form, and give thanks when it does come.

That’s the formula for always having more love, or more of anything else.

Sometimes it’s not easy though, and we feel that the entire universe is against us. That’s when you need to keep a single-minded vision of where you’re going in front of you at all times, to direct and guide you towards that end goal – especially if it seems thousands of miles away.

Give life to that goal image – make it walk, talk, breathe and move. Go to sleep with it and wake up with what you desire more than anything. See it, feel it, embody it in yourself – especially if you can’t yet do it. The more you trial-run doing a thing you really want like this, the more power the universe has to pull that goal towards you effortlessly and quickly.

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Maryam Webster is is a San Francisco, California area inspirational speaker, best selling self-help author, energy psychologist, coach and trainer. She helps people with extreme challenges, and the Experts who help evolve others – coaches, therapists, teachers, doctors & entrepreneurs – to “Do the Impossible”.

Teaching herself to walk again after being hit by a drunk driver, and three years as a paraplegic (with doctors predicting permanent paralysis), plus losing over 100 pounds she gained while bedridden are only two of the many ways Maryam has done the “impossible” in her own life.She’s literally walks her talk and tells it like it is.

Specializing in fast, easy to use methods for change and personal growth, Maryam developed the easy, fast-acting ETHOS Method for Consciousness and Healing, and custom crafts transformational processes for everyone she works with.

Inspired by the Dalai Lama's quote "Western women will save the world", Maryam is focusing her efforts on stubborn symptoms relief and second life planning for women at menopause, or who need a midlife reboot. In private life, Maryam is a yoga enthusiast, comfy shoeist, momcat and nature lover, and makes her home among the redwoods of the northern California coast.

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  1. Jason, Cyn you are so welcome! If you’d like to get more of the same – this is especially for midlife women – please go over to my website and pick up the free intro kit to kicking unwanted symptoms. Men can use this info too, but the slant is towards midlife women. You can get that here: and just fill in the form on the front page.

    If there are any questions I can answer for you on using your built-in Truth Detector, or other body-based ways to heal yourself, let me know here and I’ll be glad to answer them. 🙂

  2. I love this simple technique. I’m going to share it with a friend to has a continual go-round with people he hires. Some are great, some are “No Show/ No Call,” when it comes to actually showing up for the event. And then they have the gall to expect payment! This heart/stomach technique might be a way for him to use body intuition to hire (and fire).

  3. Thanks Shelley, good catch! And the Truth Detector is a great technique to use with any situation involving people where you don’t know what to do, or when someone MAY be lying or they may not. Checking in with heart and stomach will always tell you the right thing to do! 🙂

  4. I clicked over here on a whim because I saw both your email and tweets about this article from a few different people today and I’m very glad I did. I have been looking for a way to support myself more when I make decisions in my spiritual and secular life. I have always felt uneasy about trusting my decisions but this Truth Detector thing is so simple and easy. I already tried it and knew instantly this is what I was looking for. I have a question though. Can these feelings come anywhere else in the body? Also, if you have had surgery in one of these areas (I have had heart surgery) is it still ok to use? Thanks!

  5. Hi Sage, glad you like the Truth Detector and – great question! Basically, your body holds an energetic imprint of every organ in its pristine, brand-new condition I like to call your “Infinite Self”. This is the you that you were before everything happened to mess you up physically and emotionally. I talk about this in The ETHOS Method eBook (which is downloadable free at: but basically no matter what was done surgically, you still have the energetic imprint of that perfect heart, and that’s the wisdom and consciousness you’re accessing.

    Also, there is NO side-effect to using your Truth Detector so you can’t hurt yourself, OR “get it wrong”. In fact, the more you use it, the better you get, the more connected to your inner wisdom, to your body and to the Rightness of You. Hope this helps! 🙂

  6. Hi Janet, you’re so very welcome! Do you have any tried-and-true ways you use your intuition you’d like to add? This is open to everyone – please, feel free to share your wisdom with us – doing that, we all benefit! 😉

  7. Oh PS to Sage – I missed answering your question about wisdom appearing in other parts of the body. And the answer is – it absolutely can! Your body is a very finely attuned guidance system for the person that inhabits it. It is very wise, but it shows its wisdom to us in a different language. The heart and stomach, or solar plexus are generalizations that tend to fit across cultures and personal dispositions. Depending on what traumas have happened to the body, things may be different than I described however.

    For instance, I have a client who is learning to access her body’s wisdom who noticed when dating after 50, her knees felt cold when she contemplated going out with the wrong guy, and tingly when “the right one” came along. Another client had similar sensations of light and heavy I describe in the article – but in her feet. I went through a long period of lower body paralysis, and couldn’t feel my stomach, so that “heavy, cold, icky” sensation for “no” or “this isn’t right” I didn’t feel there, but could sense in my neck.

    If you’ve had significant body traumas, your wiring could simply be switched around a bit (like mine was) and you’ll get these “key indicator” feelings in a different body part. Although I’ve overcome years of paralysis to walk, run, dance and am doing fine now, I still can feel that “heavy/wrong” feeling either in my stomach or in my neck. Bonus, for me! 🙂

    We are all different, and there is no “right way” to do this. What works for you…is absolutely perfect, normal, and the way it should be.

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