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Dear Hearts,

I write this love letter for you. To you, I say love. You are here to love. To do anything other than love goes against all that you are. Love everything and everyone—the light and the darkness, the bitter and the sweet. Choose love over hate, pettiness, the need to be right, the illusion of financial security, and all the things that don’t even come close to LOVE. Because, there are no do-overs in life. You can’t erase the past or get back those moments that you missed so live now.

Know that each moment is a gift and an opportunity to live. Run in the rain with the one that makes your heart sing when she beckons you to come enjoy life with her. For that moment may be the last time you hold her hands, taste raindrops, and play like children with your beloved. Kiss your love every chance you get. Kiss her when you pick her up at the airport and every mile on your road trip to Arizona, because that may be the last trip, embrace, and kiss that you two will share.

Know thyself! You, spiritual-human beings, have no clue who you are. You will know true love, happiness, success, wealth, well-being, peace, and joy when you know you. As a child, you knew who you were until the world told you that you were someone else. To fit in, conform, please others, get or not get attention, and grasp for love, you decided that you were not enough so you became someone else.

To know yourself is to love yourself. So commit to you, obey your conscience and have the courage to be you. You have a choice to be who you are or to make up a story about who you are and be that inauthentic self. When you choose your authentic self over the story, your energy is aligned with Universe, so life flows easily and effortlessly. You are the “I AM.” I know the story may seem to be easier, but it’s a betrayal of your spirit, and is a cop-out to opt-out of all that you could be.

Take responsibility for your life: you are not a victim. Life doesn’t happen to you. Mind the seeds that you plant. That is, your thoughts grow your reality. Monitor every thought, carefully watching, and questioning its truth. Thoughts are clever critters and will create drama. Remember, you are not the thoughts in your head. And, that which you do not master, masters you. Be aware of those that vibrate at lower consciousness for they know not what they do. Pray for them! Love yourself enough to stand-up for you and also, accept responsibility for the role that you play.

Dear hearts, the end is near, so I leave you with this parting wisdom—be gentle with yourself, all things are temporary, judge not, and you can learn something from everyone you meet.


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Tyffany Howard, J.D. is an educator, author, and an award-winning documentary filmmaker. She is also a certified professional Life Coach, Level 2 EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) practitioner, certified Reiki Master, and a Reverend of Metaphysical Science. Tyffany earned a M.A. in Transpersonal Psychology with a specialization in Spiritual Psychology from ITP/Sofia University and has a master’s degree from the University of San Diego, and a bachelor’s degree from the University of Southern California in Communication Arts and Sciences. She facilitates workshops and retreats focused on cultivating conscious human development through her spiritually based business Tyffany Howard, LLC. Through her writings, speaking, YouTube videos and live group experiences, Tyffany impacts, empowers, and inspires many around the world.

Coined “The Tapping Lady” by a fan, Tyffany, has authored three how-to guides to tapping. This EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) tapping book series includes: tap that!; taptap! Tracy’s hair, God made it special, a children’s book; and tap that too! Healing the Death Trauma, a spiritual grief tapping book.

Born in Austin, Texas, Tyffany lives in Sedona, Arizona.

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  1. It sounds simple – to love, to live, to be patient, forgiving and kind but so hard to choose.

    The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd -August says – They know what matters, but they don’t choose it…The hardest thing on earth is to choose what matters.

    Tyffany -Thank you for the reminder of why we should choose what matters. It was what I needed to hear today.

    1. Thank you for sharing such beauty and wisdom in your writing! Jesus taught that we must love ourselves as we love our neighbors-not the other way around. You speak truth with grace and ease-may we all have the ears to hear and the eyes to see.

      1. For there is one consciousness, one love… everything moves on it as ripples across an ocean, and our lives are such ripples. Most excellent reminder and lovely timing, of course, thank you Tyfanny – blessings, doubled! 🙂

  2. This is a well written article that is very thought provoking. It inspires one to think about the possibilities of ones thoughts and actions in life…

  3. Thank you for sharing with us your wisdom Tyffany. It is funny how life gives you what you need and I really needed to read your beautifully written article today. I will read it a few times today as it has so many lessons in it. You have such kindness and I thank you for writing your wisdom. Looking forward to reading more. Blessings to you.

  4. Always enjoy hearing what u say, being with almost everyday, and talking on the phone about nothing at all. We are our sisters keeper, she is the starting line up in my journey to not hidden and being me and believe me: I MAKE ME HARD. When I feel all is lost I pray and she pops up. We are strong through the growing knowledge and wisdom of our mother and a generation of many other women. Love u girl

  5. We’ve had a hard year full of drama and I have chosen to do just as you said. I’ve stopped allowing the drama to control my thoughts. I’m taking better care of me and trying hard to show nothing but love to the world. You are so right when you say it’s easier to dwell in the negative, but it’s so much happier to be in the light and spread love. Thank you for sharing this incredible piece! Love you Tyffany!

  6. What a beautiful and succinct passage. It perfectly summed up all the notions that I have had floating about me recently. I can’t wait for it to rain so I can run through it.

  7. It takes great courage to Be Who We Are and even greater courage to Love ourselves as we are. Love gives us everything we need and Love is the greatest gift we can share.
    Tyffany, thank you for your Love and Courage-Blessed Be My Sister!

  8. Tiffany thank you for teaching so many of us how to tap into happiness and love by taking control of our thoughts and not allowing them to take control of us which most if not all of us do. I have enjoyed reading this article it is really deep and as I read it I took a deep breath and began to feel free while changing my thoughts at that very moment to a love song. May the universe send you blessings always.


  9. Love is total awareness, being the present moment. Absolute Consciousness is love. There is no thing to do. Existence happens on its own. Just trust. Thanks for being in spirit Om mani padme hum

  10. Tyffany, your message does inspire me to no end……may you continue to resound with the loving energy of who you are as you encourage others to do the same. Namaste’

  11. Thank you for inspiring me today! Your message couldn’t have come at a better time in my life. Learned it the hard way, but I agree LOVE is all you need!

    1. Thank you, Susan! Sounds like an amazing challenge. I love how the word “kindness” rolls off my tongue. It is such a high vibratory word. Many blessing to you!

  12. Oooh, I loved what you wrote Tyffany Howard. What a lovely message that you put out there! Because of you,I am going to be gentle and kind to myself today and give my kids extra hugs and kisses when they come home from school. I’m looking forward to reading more of your work. Much love and kindness to you.
    Sandra Kimler

    1. Thank you, Sandra! Wishing you kindness and gentleness on your journey. Much love to you and your kids. I’m sure that they will love more hugs and kisses. Always love and kindness to you.

  13. Tyffany, I found a few moments tonight to enjoy what you wrote. You always shine so brightly and your message is clear – BeLove(d). Behold what manner of Love the Father has given unto us, That we can be called a child of God. I John, 3:1

  14. Knowing the you that is really you, after decades of external and internal indoctrination, without a ‘road’ or ‘how too’ map can indeed be a challenge. Mine came unexpectedly and without conscious pursuit. I’d love to have a list of all the different paths people have taken (accidentally and by design).

  15. . . .I wanted to add, and couldn’t edit. Tiffany, you so eloquently wrote about the quest that I believe is the key to saving humanity and the planet. Thanks for your inspiration and brilliance!

  16. These words resonate so deeply and completely within my heart. Thank you Tyffany for your beautiful, inspiring and clear vision into truth ~ we all need to love each other especially ~ especially now, especially when it’s hard, especially ourselves. Thank you for letting your Love Light shine so brightly!
    XO Sheron

    1. Dear Sheron, you’re most welcome. Thank you so much for your love and support! I feel you expressed it beautifully, “we all need to love each other especially now, especially when it’s hard, especially ourselves.” Much love, dear friend!

  17. Werner, you’re most welcome! Thank you so much for leaving a comment and for your kind words. I agree that it would be wonderful to have a list of all the different paths people have taken. Many blessings!

  18. Love this! You have such a way with words and such a calming spirit. You are such an amazing example of what it means to be your authentic self…I wish more of us felt comfortable enough within ourselves to shine as bright as you.

  19. Thank you Tyffany for the light that you are and share! You inspire me and others to seek within. We all are in need of understanding that life is about LOVE as we travel on our journey! I am blessed to know you and to be reminded when I fall short. I love you my sister!

  20. Tyfanny, is a person who is kindhearted, selfless, spiritual, loving and a gentle person who has a soul of gold. She often encourages others to believe in ones self worth, money is important, Tyfannys true value can’t be measured by it. The value you give to others can’t be measured by dollars and cents. TYFANNY adds value to other people’s lives and that is very special quality to possess, continue to beacon of light for others.

    1. Aw Garfield! Thank you so much! I appreciate your kind and loving words. I can say the same about you and the work you do with the Unincluded Club. Thanks for all that you do! Much love!

  21. Tyffany: Thank you for inspiring me. This article is brilliant and it reflects you and your true self. I want to be like that when I grow up.

  22. Alyssa said it so well: “I wish more of us felt comfortable enough within ourselves to shine as bright as you.” Your article conveyed true inspiration, Tyffany. Every sentence would initiate spending time in meditation. Your article also summarized the essence of messages of love found in all the great religious books of history. You shared a beautiful summary to incorporate in our daily lives to witness to this truth by our actions and who we are. Amen! Alleluia!

  23. I believe things are as you describe. If we can know ourselves, truly know who we really are, then we will love ourselves. There is simply no greater gift one can give the world, and one’s self, than to be fully who you are. I love what you have written here, Tyffany. Thank you for being who you are and for sharing your true self with us.

    1. Robert, I so resonate with what you shared here: “There is simply no greater gift one can give the world, and one’s self, than to be fully who you are.” Thank you for sharing these words and for your support! It’s my pleasure to be who I am, so you’re most welcome!

  24. I have taped these words of wisdom to my fridge as a daily reminder of inspirations and ways to live life fully and in integrity. Thank you so much.

  25. Such a beautiful LOVE letter. I felt your words touch my heart as I read this letter feeling as if you were speaking directly to me. Such wise words and a reminder of how important it is to just be me…. And yes, life does flow easier that way. Thank you for the gentle reminder. I can just be I AM. 🥰

    1. Thank you so much, my dear Lizzy! When we were kids, your love and kindness touched my heart. Who you are is beautiful and bright. Yes, be who you are! Much love!

  26. Dear Tyffany
    This is truth in its full simplicity❤️
    Thank you and I will hold these truths close to my being as I dance through these moments where much is feeling challenging
    Grateful for your wisdom
    With much love 🙏🏼

    1. Dear beautiful Alba, thank you so much! I’m dancing with you through the challenging moments. Maybe, we can find a slow and gentle melody that holds us both. I’m grateful for your wisdom which you often shared with me. Much love!

  27. Wow, I needed to read this beautiful article tonight. Thank you Tyffany for your gift of heart, wisdom, compassion, and hope. Your clarity and grace in reminding us to be true to Self; and not to turn away from ourselves and choose the external construct of “the story” above that which we are, always waiting for us, whole and golden.

    1. You’re most welcome, Beth! I appreciate your kindness and your beautiful words…”not to turn away from ourselves and choose the external construct of “the story” above that which we are…” I felt that deep in my heart chakra. Thank you and much love!

  28. Tyffany, there are some very sage words of wisdom here! I was very touched by “To know thyself is to love thyself.” – This had never dawned on me before. I adore this addition to the axiom of “know thyself”, as deep self awareness does often bring us into further self love. Thank you for sharing your heart, soul, and love with us all.

    1. Dear Stephanie, you’re welcome and thank you! Similar to you, I’ve always loved the axiom “know thyself.” I’m passionate and committed to the never-ending process of knowing myself. I know you are committed to self awareness as well. Much love!

  29. What an uplifting piece! As we head into the holidays, I’ve been thinking a lot about how to create the life I want and feel joyful daily. This is truly inspiring. Thank you ❤️

    1. You’re most welcome, and thanks so much, Tracey! I resonate with your intention to create the life you want and feel joyful daily. I have been going through the same process. Wishing you the life and joy you want. Much love!

  30. The creative possibility are endless when invoking the quantum field of love- -soulenergy suffusing the bodymind with sublime agency for the ultimate uplift.

    1. Meghan, I totally agree with you! “The creative possibilities are endless when invoking the quantum filed of love…” Thank you for your support. Much love!

  31. There is absolutely nothing to add or subtract from this soul truth. Thank you Tyffany for your magical soul and spirit. You speak not only your truth but the truth of the human race and the souls and spirits that are asleep. These beautiful words are a true creation of who you are !!! Thank you angel for awakening us!🌹💜🌹💜🦋

  32. Really beautiful. The phrase , “That which you do not master, masters you.” Is brilliant! Thank You Tyffany 💕

  33. You always give us beautiful reminders! Thank you so much for being you and sharing your heart with us. Much love to you for this and all you do!

  34. The love and joy one feels reading this letter is a delightful feeling. We can all stay at forever. Thank you for this reminder Auntie. A moment to sit and read a genuine heartfelt and meaningful, yet powerful message about LOVE. “Life doesn’t happen to you. Mind the seeds that you plant. That is, your thoughts grow your reality.” Which we often forget ,thank you for your thoughts Aunt Tyffany and constantly giving to the world with LOVE.

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