Going through rain, thunder and sunshine in life, I have learned this:
Whatever color of the skin on people we all have the same feelings, the same joy, the same fears, the same biology, the same psychology. Yes, on the inside we are all the same. So never judge on the outside.
Also be kind to everybody including yourself. Kindness feeds kindness and we need more of that on the globe.
This definitely includes never, ever hit your children. Talk to them, show them what is right. Hit and abused children often grow up to be hitting and abusing grown-ups. By the way, don’t hit or abuse grown-ups either.
Listen more than you talk. You have got two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen actively and you will hear fantastic things you never would otherwise.
Don’t care what other people think of you; what matters is what YOU think and want (as long as you are kind to others too).
Be with people that make you feel good. Stop seeing people that make you feel discomfort or that drains your energy. Let them go – they will find other people to be with.
Always stick to the truth. As soon as you start fiddling with the truth, you will get more and more tangled up in your lie and in the end you don’t know what you said – to whom you said it – and it will get you in trouble and be very stressful.
Focus and work your way towards what you want – don’t try to escape away from what you don’t want – that will take care of itself when you move in another direction.
You only live once so it is a good idea to take good care of both your body and your mind during that life. That way you can live fully. Because when your time is up – it is up.
Pay it forward is a genial principle. I believe that if everybody could adopt that thinking we would have a better world.
In the end it is all about mindset – you decide how to relate to things, people, events – yes, everything. Life IS unfair, will always be, and it may be against you – but with your mindset you can avoid becoming a victim. That will just eat your soul out, and you can with your mindset decide to overcome difficulties and live an okay – or even good! – life anyway.
And try to keep smiling – it will release feel-good hormones and life may be a little bit easier.
Love from Dr Annika