Life is not an ALL or nothing situation. I’ve spent a lot of years thinking that it was. Thinking that if I had plenty of time to spend with my family it meant that I couldn’t have a successful career. Or that if I had a lot of income coming in that I couldn’t or even shouldn’t enjoy what I was doing. The either/or scenario seemed to overshadow me.
But I’ve started to notice that the times in my life when I am most happy are when I am in “both” mode. Like when I work efficiently during the day and then stop working at night to spend uninterrupted time with my family. Or when I just relax into loving what I have chosen for my career and let the income chips fall where they may.
Staying in the decision point of choosing one or the other wastes a lot of energy. Just doing something and choosing to enjoy it while you’re doing it will give you the most satisfaction. The sensation of being fully present in a given moment can be quite joyful and yet grounding at the same time.
One strategy for being fully present is to make yourself focus on your physical reality.
For example, if I am in the car I feel the steering wheel in my hands. I look at something I am driving by and make myself notice a detail or two. I consciously take a deep breath in and let it out slowly.
By focusing on your physical space you mentally put yourself in it too. At that moment you are present.
If I could go back in time I would not attempt to change many outcomes in my life or the actual choices I have made. What I would change is being fully present as much as possible. Instead of thinking ahead about what is going to (or might) happen or what has already transpired I would just focus on what IS happening right now.
Since I’m pretty sure no time machine is available, the only thing you and I can do is start now. Ready, set, breathe…