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Life is not an ALL or nothing situation. I’ve spent a lot of years thinking that it was. Thinking that if I had plenty of time to spend with my family it meant that I couldn’t have a successful career. Or that if I had a lot of income coming in that I couldn’t or even shouldn’t enjoy what I was doing. The either/or scenario seemed to overshadow me.

But I’ve started to notice that the times in my life when I am most happy are when I am in “both” mode. Like when I work efficiently during the day and then stop working at night to spend uninterrupted time with my family. Or when I just relax into loving what I have chosen for my career and let the income chips fall where they may.

Staying in the decision point of choosing one or the other wastes a lot of energy. Just doing something and choosing to enjoy it while you’re doing it will give you the most satisfaction. The sensation of being fully present in a given moment can be quite joyful and yet grounding at the same time.

One strategy for being fully present is to make yourself focus on your physical reality.

For example, if I am in the car I feel the steering wheel in my hands. I look at something I am driving by and make myself notice a detail or two. I consciously take a deep breath in and let it out slowly.

By focusing on your physical space you mentally put yourself in it too. At that moment you are present.

If I could go back in time I would not attempt to change many outcomes in my life or the actual choices I have made. What I would change is being fully present as much as possible. Instead of thinking ahead about what is going to (or might) happen or what has already transpired I would just focus on what IS happening right now.

Since I’m pretty sure no time machine is available, the only thing you and I can do is start now. Ready, set, breathe…

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Kim Dushinski is the author of The Mobile Marketing Handbook and President of Mobile Marketing Profits, a marketing firm that helps local businesses use mobile marketing to get more customers. Her company also helps people start their own mobile marketing business.

She is a successful entrepreneur with over 20 years of experience in sales and marketing as a Marketing Director at a travel agency, desktop publisher, business marketing consultant, an Internet marketer, and partner in MarketAbility, a book publicity firm.

In addition to her entrepreneurial endeavors she likes to scrapbook, read, hike and hang out with good friends. She lives in Colorado with her husband, daughter, and their two big dogs.

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  1. Staying at present and doing anything is Joy simply that’s what you are? I am writing this while I am fully Present, my fully consciousness is at it, consciousness is Awareness. The Excellent of who you are is that. “Presence of Awareness or Awareness of Presence” and the “Oneness” is all the excellent of who you are. This tell us how good we are. The more you live in the present the better you will be Blessings. We are all spiritual being having a human experience. Thank you and Blessings.

  2. ready, set, breathe: the commonality of ‘both’ is ‘in the moment’
    can ‘one’ begin by addressing both and end up in the breathing moment?

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