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Stay naive in the belief that everything is going to be all right. Because if you don’t trust that this is true, the Universe won’t be able to assist you.
Don’t take your thoughts too seriously. Learn to laugh about yourself.
Choose the path of least resistance, which isn’t the lazy or comfortable one, but the one led by your enthusiasm and joy.
Understand that happiness can only be experienced now, in the embodiment of the present as it is. Happiness isn’t excitement. It’s not even an emotion. Happiness is a state of no-resistance, of acceptance of what-is. It’s neutrality within, regardless of the environment and the circumstances.
Keep shifting your perception until you find reasons to be grateful for your circumstances. Only the door of gratitude can open the possibility of a better life. In the end, reality is just a point of view.
Be malleable in your beliefs. They are meant to be worn like shoes—acquire new ones when you grow and change them to adapt to the season.
Feel comfortable with not knowing. Isn’t that what wisdom is about—accessing information from emptiness and being the channel for something bigger than ourselves, beyond comprehension?
Give up the need to be right. You’ll be surprised by how much conflict you can resolve and how delightful your relationships can become.
Be human, and not always a good, appropriate, or positive one. Don’t be afraid of exploring all your aspects. Dare to listen to your shadow. Don’t deny its existence, no matter how ugly it may sound.
Make mistakes, tons of them, because it’s only after the fact that your window of opportunity to change is going to open.
Admit your mistakes more often and learn to ask for forgiveness without excusing your behavior. Respect the victims of your mistakes in their decision to reject you, but offer amendment without expecting redemption.
Forgive instead of forget. Take the time to understand people’s intentions—including your own—so that empathy can give natural birth to pardon.
Practice empathy without losing sight of your boundaries. Practice the art of honest feedback.
Be curious and take every opportunity to live your own experience. Don’t take as truth someone else’s “life lessons,” not even this one.
Observe and wonder. Spend more time asking questions than finding answers.
Frequently remind your ego that you are just a stepping stone towards a better life for humanity. That your true value to the whole is in becoming available to serve, not by self-sacrificing for others, but by expressing your uniqueness.
Realize that nothing is ever lost—your time, your relationships, your energy—because you’re always gaining in experience.
And most of all, self reflect. Spend more time alone—discovering your fears, venting out your emotions and finding out what works and doesn’t work for you. It’s the best way to develop more honest—therefore enriching—relationships with yourself and others.

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Marilu is, perhaps, one of the most unusual authors you'll ever meet—she only started speaking English in 2000; she has no degrees on literature, psychology or philosophy; and she's too young to have enough wisdom to speak of. Her writing reflects an authentic enthusiasm to live life at its fullest, and to "download" and share her valuable insights into our human condition.
Marilu Holmes was born in Caracas, Venezuela. She spent her childhood training and dancing for one of the most prestigious ballet academies of her country, the Russian Ballet School of Gustavo Franklin. She still enjoys dancing through the practice of tango.
Marilu co-owns a small printing company in Florida with her husband. She holds a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the Universidad Central de Venezuela and an Associate of Applied Science degree in film and TV production. She spent four years writing for a Venezuelan news radio station and a year as a reporter for a local TV channel before moving to the United States in 2000 with her husband. When their second child was born—in 2004—they opened their printing business. In 2015, she self published her first book—What’s In the Way of Your Happiness?—now available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.
Marilu has been published in Elephant Journal, Whole Living Journal, and has been quoted in Illusion(s) Nouvelles et textes poétiques (texts inspired by Mark Drew’s photographs and juried for the Bancal Review, Paris, Nov 2014). She writes monthly for her personal blog, Downloads of Wisdom.

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  1. This work of Marilu was simply right on the spot. As I finish describing what is in the way of my and my neighboring Reincarnations’ way to happiness, I describe my opinion of the Prophecy for our Paradigm shift to continue as us. In doing so, I find my presence. Being at (hard return), this is my first Realization today. I shall receive many realization todays’ as Saint Stephen was the First Martyr. In mapping the Domain life sacrifice to the Codomain realization today, these lives are not lost in entirety as the dead are respected. This is part of my being with Unity, a place of gathering where I serve.

  2. Makes so much sense… We have to stop taking life so seriously and step back from the daily cycle of life.. thanks for sharing

  3. Thanks for sharing and confirming my thoughts and actions to myself. I try to make the most of, and enjoy the moments of solitude so that I can reflect on what is and what has been and what isn’t. I do this so that I may become a better me for myself and my love ones and more meaningful to and in society as a whole.

  4. Marilu, this is spoken with true wisdom. I keep being amazed how our beliefs, translated into perceptions, keep us stuck in the zone of ‘being right;” if we are not open to other possibilities.

  5. Stay naive in the belief that everything is going to be all right. Because if you don’t trust that this is true, the Universe won’t be able to assist you. This is my favorite line in a well done post. Marilu – you state so clearly a good set of ‘rules’ to live by.

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