Monthly Archives: January 2014

Ask a Luminary

How Can I Move Out of My Household’s Negative Energy?

"I have been living with my adult son, his wife, and my 2 grandchildren for 2 years now. I finally set boundaries regarding the expectation that I cook and do the laundry for a family of six in addition to providing babysitting and childcare help for my two granddaughters, ages 5 and 6. I am a 58 year old woman, divorced with two grown sons. Since I have set the limits, I am getting the silent treatment from my daughter in law. If I try to communicate, I get curt, short one word answers. I have overheard her yelling at…

Read more

Are You Living Authentically? The Answer May Surprise You.

Much of the self help world doesn’t begin to address what we really need: what you need, what I need, what anyone needs in our lives. That’s because our current state of evolution is so fast, that what made sense even a few years ago is no longer current or relevant to where we can go today. Recently, I was invited to take part in a seminar that promised it would teach me how to access my authentic self. That sounded great! Who doesn’t want to live authentically? But as I looked at the list of all the things this…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

How Can I Reconnect with My Higher Self?

"I can sense that my connection to my Higher Self is not fully open. Can you offer any insight as to what is causing this partial blockage and how to remove it?" ~ Su-Yin, San Francisco, CA Dear Su-Yin, As you focus on having a block, of course you make a vibrational match to having a block. In truth, you do not have a block at all. You simply have a limiting belief! Find 10 minutes, not more than 15 minutes a day to simply "be". Release all awareness of your past and all focus on your future and instead Be…

Read more

Bouncing with Style: Aren’t You Embarrassed?

"Aren’t you embarrassed? You are embarrassing yourself and your family." Anonymous Gmail and Baseball Mom. I’m going to be brutally honest: the email in my inbox knocked me on my tush as did the comments from the mom at my son’s baseball game’s. For 5 years, I have spoken frankly on the air what it’s like to be cheated on, suffer through a traumatic divorce and foreclosure, and bury my mother after a long term battle with breast cancer. Additionally, my words written and spoken reached over 1 million people – quantified by Google, iTunes and the Texas based radio…

Read more

Peace in the Midst of Life’s Storms

It is far too easy to get caught up in all the noise, chatter and distractions that come our way. Maintaining focus in the chaos is often a mighty challenge. In times of our greatest crises the power of doubt, fear, stress and anxiety has enormous force. As this adversity grips us, something as simple as finding peace and maintaining confidence can be incredibly difficult. As I lived through the early experiences of my youngest son's addiction, I found myself completely distracted by his every move, thought, action, and decision. I became uncontrollably focused on saving him from his illness…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

Does Negative News Affect Me?

"I am so upset with all the news and violence today. I wonder if watching it created more of it? If we all watch the news and the sadness, are we in fact creating it? Is that why so many young people are killing others? They are saddened and feel no one cares and see the news of others killing themselves, so they think they should? Is media creating more sadness and violence...? Again, should I turn off my TV and not watch it, or is that a coward's way out? I fear that all the people watching the tragedies…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

How Can I Make My Business a Success?

"I lost my job and decided to start a business, only to learn how difficult it can be. How can I make my business a success?" ~ John, Campbell, CA Dear John, The first question to answer is: Why are you in business? Don't accept your first answer. Question that answer and keep questioning your answers to get to the real truth. It will boil down to your desire of having a dream lifestyle. Now, take that lifestyle and define it as a S.M.A.R.T. goal. (Make it Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound.) Visualize this goal daily, if not 10 times…

Read more

Is the Universe Sending You a Wakeup Call?

Sometimes we think we want something—but when it arrives for us, we realize that we never wanted it at all. We just thought we did. As if there’s this gap between what our mind craves, and what resides in the deeper chambers of our heart. What we want in our earth life—and what our soul truly desires. For years, I’d craved one of those fancy coffee makers—you know the kind. They look like miniature space ships ready to take off from the counter, and they require an elaborate system of add-on purchases to brew: tiny individual capsules of coffee, tea…

Read more

The Secret for Effortless Living

Everyone wonders whether or not there is one Great Secret for truly successful living. There is. And it is not a secret. It has been quietly, steadily telling itself right in front of us all along. We just couldn't hear it over the clatter and chatter of our own secret demands. Listen quietly for a moment. Everything can change right now. Learning to hear this Supreme Secret is no more difficult than choosing whether to swim against a current or to let it carry you safely to the shore. Let it speak its wisdom to that secret part of you…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

How Can I Find the Time to Meditate?

"I've heard that meditation and exercise will make my life work more smoothly, but I never find the time for this. How can I make this a priority?" First get clear on why you want to meditate or exercise. Your why is the fuel that keeps you moving forward when obstacles come in the way. If your children's lives depended on you exercising, would you make time? Once you are clear on your why, here are a few tips that will help you increase your productivity and "make time" for mediation and exercise: Chunk your time into focused blocks where…

Read more

5 More Tips for a Dynamic & Fulfilled Life

In my Brilliance, I talked about the importance of staying true to who you are, because that’s the only way to express your create genius and live fully! As we all know, we are in some uncertain times. I wanted to share a couple more insights that I feel can make a difference in the quality of your life as you approach this new year. If taken seriously , they will solidify an exceptional start, and create big momentum into the coming months. It’s sad to say the story of the human race is the story of men and women…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

Why Do I Attract Violent People into My Life?

"Hi Sara, I recently discovered your work and have a strong feeling that this was not random luck. I’m a 48-year woman and I’m not able to move forward in my life. I have always been a loner, not able to connect with people. I had an unpleasant childhood with a dominant mother and 2 long-term relationships in which I experienced violence, both physical and emotional. I’m a very sensitive person, an introvert. I’m having a relationship right now, but I’m not able to connect with him, both physically and emotionally. My boyfriend is 15 years older. I have this…

Read more

Bouncing with Style: Feelings are Not Truths

One of the fun parts of keeping a journal is you can look back and reflect, sure, but you can also look back and laugh. When I was in the death throes of my marriage, counseling that I thought was to save our marriage after my husband’s latest affair and he thought was the way to get out of our marriage, I journaled a lot. Now, years later, with two active voracious readers underfoot in elementary school, I thought I better check out these journals in case my kids open them. Boy! If flames could have leapt from the pages…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

How Do I Juggle Work, Life and Kids?

"Is it possible for women to have it all? I want a career and quality time with my family and kids, but I am worn out and exhausted." ~ Christine, Scottsdale, AZ Dear Christine, Firstly, you are not alone. Secondly, the answer to your question is resounding YES! You can have it all, but it will come over time, not all at once. I developed a concept that addresses the exact question you are asking. It is called ego-RHYTHM®. There are 9 main ego-RHYTHMs including Family/Friends, Love/Relationship, Health, Transition, Career, and more. As you can imagine, it is challenging to…

Read more

Are Those Heavy Burdens Actually A Gift?

Nature always teaches us lessons, if we just pay attention. Today, my husband and I went for a snowshoe hike by our home in Glacier National Park, with Koda (our 6 year old Samoyed). The snow was deep and beautiful. The temperature was just above freezing and unfortunately, instead of the forecast for several inches of new snow gently falling, it was lightly raining. The heavy snowpack from the last week combined with the wet, falling rain, increased the burden being placed on the trees, weighing them down with large piles of heavy, wet snow. Some of them were bent…

Read more

Calling in Your Beloved: The Truth About Soul Mates

As we approach that magical day, 2/14/2014, our thoughts turn to love—or more precisely, romantic love. It’s a concept that’s been around since medieval times, but it’s reinvented itself over the centuries. Today, when we talk about romantic love, what we usually mean is: Your soul mate Your true love Your destiny Your one and only Love at first sight These are terms for what is energetically referred to as a primary soul mate who’s also a romantic partner. Once we set aside all the chocolate-and-champagne that is the hallmark of modern romance, we understand at a deeper level that…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

7 Loving Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Your Spouse

"I want to improve the relationship with my wife, but I don't know where to start. We're best friends, but I want the spark back that we had 20 years ago. Do all relationships get to this point and is it unrealistic to think that passion can last forever?" It’s time to create romance by adding more “love languages” to your relationship! There are seven ways you show love to your mate. Get playful and start using them in unexpected ways. You’ll have a ball and she’ll be swept of her feet! 1. Words of Affirmation. Tell her what you…

Read more

Pi, a Rainbow and a Nudist Beach

The movie Life of Pi is the story of a young man who survives a disaster at sea and is hurtled into an epic journey of adventure and discovery. While cast away, he forms an unexpected connection with another survivor: a fearsome Bengal tiger. At one point, Pi, clearly feeling like he had reached the end of his rope, yells out to God, "I lost my parents, I lost everything, what more do you want?" How often in life does this same thing happen to us, where we just want pack up and move on... when we feel like we…

Read more
Ask a Luminary

How Can I Find More Time – Simply?

"I know we all have 24 hours each day, yet I'm always rushed and feel like I'm behind the 8 ball. How can I get ahead and actually create time to do the things that I feel I need and want to do?" ~ Lillian, Lafayette, CA We're almost at that date when Marty McFly arrives in Back to the Future, so we might just be getting close to bending the space-time continuum. But... we're not there yet, I'm afraid. 1. Ask yourself what you can do more efficiently. Sometimes this means cutting out some extra steps with a little planning.…

Read more