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24 Guidelines for Your Best Life

Each day is a gift so begin and end each day with gratitude. Celebrate the good and more of it will flow to you. Adversity is a part of life. Know that you are not your problems. Instead of getting wrapped up in doom and gloom, change your focus to the life you want to have, not the problems you think are before you, realizing that what's happening around you isn't who you are. Love what is. Our stress often comes from our perception that something is good or bad- not from the circumstance itself. Instead of getting frustrated over…

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Allow Kindness to Heal Your Struggling Self

With the return of my son’s cancer, I have had lots of opportunities to be with fear and despair.   Sharing this journey with my son has taken me to a deeper level of presence than I have ever known. My body has been a very dear friend throughout this fierce process, especially my belly and my breath. Whenever I am caught in the fear-based mind, sometimes all I can do is soften my belly and allow a deeper breath. The belly is one of the best biofeedback mechanisms we have.  If it is tight, we are up in our…

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How to Honor Your Survival System

We all created a finely-crafted survival system to bury or numb our pain when we were young.  We had to, as it was absolutely necessary for survival.  Life was too scary, and we didn’t have the skills to meet ourselves in our hearts. Our survival system can include compulsions, such as drug and alcohol abuse, shopping, work, sex, the Internet, busyness, self-judgment, and chronic worry.  I think about all of those years that I shut down the pain with food, drugs and alcohol.  In one year alone, I gained 97 pounds.  I would have died of the pain if I…

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My Gratitude List

Every morning I sit outside on my high-floor terrace in South Florida, sip my coffee, and read an uplifting pamphlet or two. Then I write out my day’s schedule. Too often, despite the uplifting material, I start worrying about this client or that deadline or the seemingly endless list of tasks on the schedule. And my quiet time erodes into anxiety. The activity that’s supposed to help me ease into the day with a positive outlook has the opposite effect. Instead of returning to my home office refreshed and ready to work, I’m drained and irritable. As I kept noticing…

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Three Reminders For A Meaningful Life

When one is brought to the brink of death and back, he or she is suddenly exposed to new perspectives and new values. In my battle with cancer, I learned an endless number of lessons. If it was my last day, last hour, or last minute on this planet, I would be overflowing with words to tell the world. Because I would not have the time to tell them everything I would want to share, here are the three most important to me... The Time Is Now So many of us get caught up in the past or become anxious…

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An Open Heart Heals

The willingness to meet whatever is showing up in our lives takes courage.  Did you know that the root for the word courage means “of the heart”?   It takes an open heart and deep compassion to see all of the conditioned stories in our heads that keep us separate from life.  It takes courage to see them, love them and, under that gaze of compassion, allow them to evaporate like the summer fog when it is touched by the morning sun. I have been experiencing a lot of pain in my back and leg for quite some time now. …

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Winning The Lottery Of Life

I’m in Las Vegas for a few days, taking a speaker’s training workshop with the incomparable, Les Brown. As I was walking to our conference room this morning, I had to walk through the casino. I’m not a gambler, rarely walk through casinos, and I felt like I was experiencing sensory overload on this short walk. There were slot machines everywhere, and at each, someone was already aimlessly feeding its voracious appetite. The vast majority of the folks there were over 70, obese, smoking, drinking (in the morning!) and looked haggard and defeated by life. Perhaps they'd been gambling all…

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Fuel Your Gratitude With Faith

Exactly how does that Bible verse go? Is it "in everything give thanks..." or is it "for everything give thanks..."? I have to be honest and tell you that I don't always feel thankful. On nights that homework with my daughter turns into a 3+ hour ordeal, I don't feel thankful. When I was told that my daughter had autism, I didn't feel very thankful. When strangers in stores and restaurants gave us angry stares because my daughter was too loud or too busy for their taste, I felt defensive and angry, but not thankful. God expects us to cycle…

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Living in Gratitude

Operate from a place of gratitude, positivity and selflessness. There is always something to be grateful for. I look at each experience in life as a chance to learn and grow as a person. I am known for taking a day-old batch of lemons and making a kick-butt pitcher of lemonade to share with everyone around me. I work hard to find the positive aspects from each experience that life throws my way. In 2004, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and I've since learned to appreciate the little things in life. You won't find me complaining about doing the…

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5 Principles To Lead A Fulfilled Life

1. To learn anything, you cannot be afraid to ask questions. This fear no doubt harkens back to grade school, when other kids would poke fun at the kid who asked for clarification on something. Unfortunately, most people don't grow out of it, fearing others will think them simple. The reality is, while everyone is an expert at something, no one can be an expert in everything. If you don't ask, you won't learn. Ask questions until you are satisfied you understand the answer. This may be the only opportunity you have to learn. Don't miss out on the experience.…

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How To Let Your Brilliant Being Shine

I recently came across one of my favorite poems, My Brilliant Image, by the fourteenth century Persian Poet, Hafiz: One day the sun admitted, I am just a shadow. I wish I could show you The Infinite Incandescence That has cast my brilliant image! I wish I could show you, When you are lonely or in darkness, The astonishing Light Of your own Being! Hafiz is telling us that the astonishing light, the brilliance of our own being, is already with us.  We are filled with great light that permeates everything.    Brian Swimme, Evolutionary Philosopher and Co-Collaborator of the documentary…

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7 Ways to Slow Down and Live Full Today

Often times, our days get ahead of us and by the time night falls, we cannot even remember what we did or how the hours passed by so quickly. Here are some ways you can catch yourself from running blindly through your day like a tornado, missing everything, so that you can live fully and with intention.  Set intentions. This may sound silly, but the way in which you wake will determine much of your day. When you open your eyes (before anyone - human or companion animal - notices you are awake), take a few moments to pay attention to…

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3 Steps to Greater Inner Peace

Creating greater inner peace in your part of the world is a way to empower new possibilities for your life, relationships and the planet. 1. Start in your heart. Widening your heart to the places in your life where you feel resentment, anger, and guilt is a way to bring inner peace to unfinished business from the past. Make time for understanding and forgiveness. Bring self compassion into your body-mind system with each breath. In every moment is the opportunity to see the world in the present from a more self-loving place. Your parents, boss, partner, ex and your earlier…

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All Is Welcome

Some of the most important things to me are… To be authentic. Just be yourself, love yourself, and everyone else will love you. When we love ourselves it spills over and makes it a lot easier to love everyone. We get the feeling there’s only one of us here. To be grateful. Opening our eyes in the morning and being alive on this beautiful planet is already a miracle worthy of dedicating the day to thanks and appreciation. Once we start, there’s no end to the gifts to be grateful for. To be generous and available. Living in gratitude puts awareness on…

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5 Solutions for Dissolving your Doubt

I doubt myself, I trust myself. The vision is clear, then I’m in the fog. I feel powerful and then the next moment I feel like nothing. These are the cycles I go through again and again as I work towards the vision I want for my life and this world. Because I’m usually happy people get the impression that I don’t struggle or have difficulties. This couldn’t be anywhere farther from the truth. I live my life between the space of who I just was and who I am choosing to become. This practice of constantly stretching myself makes for a…

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I Suffer Too (a Tribute to Robin Williams)

The death of Robin Williams this week has come as a great surprise. Who would of thought that such a brilliant comedian, humanitarian, loving, gentle and successful person could be in so much pain? The death of Robin has certainly caused me to look more deeply into my own patterns and the way I mask my own suffering through comedy and smiley faces. To the public, I am sure I come across as always being positive, but this is far from the truth. Watching and supporting my wife Celeste grieve the loss of her father after he committed suicide three…

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What Matters Most (Poem)

There’s no right answer, to what matters most. The heart of each of us holds a special choice. What matters is living fully, in every possible way. Live like you mean it, like there is no next day. The answer lies within, deep inside your soul. Find those secret places, take a flashlight when you go. Shine down upon them, get still and really see. You will feel a spark inside, that fills you and helps you be. Play and dance and paint it out, until you light a fire. Raging brilliant flames, for your true heart's desire. Allow what…

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Change Your Focus – Change Your Experience

I recently had the honor of interviewing Neil Findlay on The Empowerment Show. In his episode, we discussed his charity work. He helps children living on the street in Madagascar who may be as young as five years old. No resources. No education. No future. A situation he could only describe as hopelessness.  He also works with teens in Australia who often turn to drugs and alcohol due to their family situations. The teens have access to everything - food, shelter, education, and technology - yet there the suicide rate is rising. Suicide is rare in Madagascar where living conditions are…

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10 Traits for Creating More Success, Abundance & Happiness

Are you suffering from “The Secret Syndrome”? You watched The Secret a decade ago, you’ve been visualizing what you want and now ten years have gone by and you’re still pretty much in the same place as you were then — minus a few free cups of coffee? Here are some 'Secrets' I have learned through the process of breathing life into many of my dreams. Turn these recommendations into habitual ways of being and I guarantee you will experience some tremendous magic bless your path. 1) A Clear Vision: Without a clear vision of what you want, how can you create the reality…

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Waking Up to Gratitude

I have a beautiful friend named Marsha, who has been married to Harry for over 40 years. Marsha says, "When I wake up in the morning and realize I am breathing, and then I hear that Harry is breathing too, then I just know it's going to be a good day." Since Marsha shared her morning ritual, I have taken on a similar attitude. While still in bed, before I move a muscle, I cast a joyful anticipation of all the possibilities the day holds for me and I give thanks for the opportunity to live it. As I move…

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