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Sometimes to grow and to truly change your life, you have to make difficult choices. To thrive and become better physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually often times is painful. You get so comfortable being uncomfortable that you settle for less when you really are destined for greatness.

Don’t let past mistakes or failures define who you are because your past doesn’t dictate what your future will be. When you make your plan of transformation remember to visualize… see the end goal, the end results of success. Map out your storybook of triumph.

Whether you start a business or audition for American Idol, anything major worth achieving means it will take time, discipline, focus, resilience, and determination on your part. If you quit, you never know what could have been.

When the unexpected nature of life comes at you full force – cancer, divorce, death of a loved one, job lost – it will test your faith, but in these difficult times you will see what you are made of when everything changes dramatically.

Life will often throw you off balance to the point where you start playing the pity game. Everyone has a right to take a little time to wallow in their grief. But then there will come a time when you will have to stop playing the pity game and start taking 100% responsibility for your life and choices you have made.

Your dreams and goals are your responsibility, so if you’re not where you want to be in life, don’t continue to blame your parents, boss, spouse, children, siblings, friends, government, or God. Instead, even on your darkest days, take just a moment to find a bit of happiness and gratitude.

In order to better yourself, and live your best life, you must be willing to learn, grow and change. Let go of anyone or anything that doesn’t add to your growth. To continue to have toxic people in your life or to continue to engage in negative and self-defeating actions or behaviors will put you in the same spot one year from now.

Be mindful that in your journey to transform your life you will be met with backstabbers, naysayers, those will clearly won’t see your vision, and those who will call you crazy for daring to dream big. Remember – live your life fearlessly and free.

Here are my final thoughts as you continue on with your journey to happiness, success and greatness. Never let mishaps, mistakes or missed steps derail your dreams. When you stumble and fall, you may be bloody and bruised with a few broken bones, but don’t let that stop you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and then push on toward the finish line.

Be well.

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Jillian Bullock is an author, screenwriter, fitness and wellness expert, life coach, motivational speaker, and award winning filmmaker. As a former competitive martial artist, who holds two black belts; one in Tae Kwon Do and the other in Wing Chun, Jillian currently trains in MMA and boxing. She is the creator of Fighting Spirit Warriors, a fitness for self-defense program for women.

In her film career, Jillian got her start in movies by interning on Spike Lee's Malcolm X after she graduated with a degree in Communications from La Salle University. Jillian went on to work on her own projects and other people's films as a screenwriter, director, producer, and/or actress. Since 2006, Jillian has been a screenwriting judge for Shoot in Philadelphia Screenwriting Contest, which is sponsored by the Greater Philadelphia Film Office.

Jillian is the author of HERE I STAND, a memoir that tells her struggles to overcome life with the Philadelphia Italian Mafia, rape, homelessness, drugs, and prostitution to fulfill her dream to become a reporter for the Wall Street Journal, a screenwriter and a filmmaker. As a certified professional life and transformation coach, Jillian uses her life lessons to empower and transform the lives of others.

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  1. That’s a gooder Jillian. I like this inspiration. I have been growing for a few years, and living a great life, and following my dreams.

  2. Jillian, I see both pain and immeasurable hope in your eyes. I’m struggling with life presently, and each and every word you said had meaning for me. I’m so grateful for what I have been blessed with, but I’ve got so many things I want to accomplish, and see walls and limitations that I need to kick down. You seem to have a kindred spirit with me; only you kick down those walls both physically and mentally. You inspire me to get up and do the same, even though I am tired. Brava my sister.

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