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Barby Ingle

Want to Change What You Get Out of Life? Change What You Put In

Even when things don't go the way we plan, everything will work out for the best. It is ok to give yourself a minute or two (maybe an hour or longer) to overcome the disappointment. For me, life is like the bank: you can only get out of it what you put in! I have worked with a lot of young people in the cheerleading world. Most of them learn quickly that if they don't put in the time and effort, they don't end up performing in the big dance. Once in a while, a girl will slip through without…

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Let Go of Your Toxic Expectations

The personal power and courage to have the best life possible are all nicely wrapped up in our package called self. Knowing when to unwrap and use each tool is a constant source of growth. Our personal tool chests have lots of "gadgets" just perfect to help inspire us and capture our heart's happiness. We regularly use "gadgets" like love, acceptance, sharing, creativity, passion, humor, kindness, embracing change, and the ability to continue to learn as tools of choice for life's jobs and journeys. For many of us the most powerful key to our best life is simply to have…

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The #1 Tool for Finding Calm

Trust. It allows you to be present in the here and now, it allows you to face the world with calmness and centeredness. Trust gives you the ability to easily let go and let God. Trust puts you in the zone and allows you to be the channel for the power of the Universe to flow through you, as you. Through Trust you will be supported in every way. The biggest thing that has changed my life has been learning Trust. It's not just about knowing what trust means, or being able to talk about it and explain it. Learning…

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Finding the Courage Within You

When my publisher asked me a few years ago what I wanted the topic of my next book to be, I told him that I wanted to write a book about courage and confidence. So many people have come into my seminars and trainings over the last 15 years seeking qualities that somehow eluded them. I thought I knew something about courage and that I had something to share. Little did I know how much I had to learn. Faced with a grave cancer diagnosis and a startling health challenge, I learned the true meaning of the words courage and…

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Celebrate YOU!

Along the journey in my life, I have accepted the affirmation that I AM the gift in my life. I never could have imagined considering this belief prior to my transformational path of self-awareness to accept that I AM the gift. It was when I denied the gift of a friend's compliment that prompted an immediate life changing transformation. My friend was disappointed when I didn't accept her compliment that I am a gift in life, which was her gift to me. Imagine if I told you that you truly are the gift in your life. Would you accept it…

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Searching for Your Purpose? Try This Exercise

Love yourself unconditionally, deeply listen to your heart's desire and every day take at least one courageous and inspired step toward making your dream a reality. Life is a precious, sacred journey with many unexpected detours, delights and delays. Remember that the end of this journey, love is the only thing that truly matters. Make a commitment to love yourself, put your needs first and then serve the world from your open heart. Here is a concrete strategy to help you define your unique life purpose and get love flowing back to your heart center. Human beings are driven creatures…

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Finding the Gift in Life

I'm lucky. I've been given a gift. It's not that I'm a successful teacher and musician for almost 40 years. It's simply the gift of life. A little over two years ago I was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia and the initial tests indicated a 10% survival rate. I felt as if I had fallen through a hole in the sky. Why me? I couldn't figure out what I had done to cause this awful disease. And then my doctor gave me a gift. She said, "This has nothing to do with what you ate or where you live or…

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Change Your Life With Forgiveness

We are beings of energy and light. The energy within each one of us carries a vibration that can be felt and/or sensed, with a polarity of low and high. The higher end is where we connect with spirit and our higher self along with other high vibrating energy like love, joy and abundance. The lower end is where negativity resides with anger, fear, sadness, illness and suffering. If your life does not match what you desire, raising your vibration can change it; forgiveness is the way. Life is too precious to squander our time living unhappy, angry, sad or…

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Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work – Being Here Does.

The moment we stopped working on ourselves to get "better", our lives instantaneously transformed. This has profoundly impacted everything. What we have learned is not to take ourselves so seriously and to not work so hard to get somewhere. We have been raised in a forward-thinking culture where we have learned that something in the future will produce the sense of well-being or "OKness" that we all strive to achieve. It is this very striving, we've discovered, that produces dissatisfaction. The constant need to achieve what we think is better than what we have in the current moment stresses our…

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Who Will Miss You?

While driving from the airport in Las Vegas, I mentioned to my driver that I was sad that my friend Danny Gans, the amazing entertainer, had passed away. The driver stopped at a red light turned to me and said "A few weeks after he died his name disappeared from all the billboards and taxi cab signs. Bam! He was gone and the town moved on without missing a beat or him." It occurred to me that while Vegas can't afford to miss Danny because the show must go on, his family is the ones who miss him more than…

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How You Can Motivate Others Everyday

Believe in yourself! You are capable of doing anything you put your heart and soul into. I only choose to focus on projects I am passionate about and can dedicate 110% of my time and energy. Dream big and set high expectations for yourself. You are your best cheerleader, so make personal goals you want to achieve and focus on those. Write those goals down and periodically read them to see which ones you have already reached. Decide if you should alter or change any goals to better suit your ideals as you change. No matter what others may say…

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