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Looking for Happiness? Accept Yourself

I've gleaned some fundamental principles from the wisdom offered by several "metaphysical" guides on how to go about living a life better filled with happiness, health, abundance, and fulfillment. They provide a spiritual code of conduct that, when followed, profoundly affects your perception of reality. These few are the key "natural principles": Accept and Allow. This is the key to living a life full of Love. To accept and allow is to invoke the natural power of Divine Love within you.True acceptance involves eliminating judgment while you allow things to be as they are. Crucially, this begins with yourself. Accepting…

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Don’t Look For Happiness in the Wrong Places

Happiness is not in your bank account. It's not in your closet, your waist line or your garage. Don't go looking to your list of, or lack of, invites, happiness isn't keeping count. Happiness doesn't know the difference between this season's shoes or last season's jacket. It's not sitting in first class on the way to Italy. Happiness didn't arrive on fine china. It's not marinated with filet mignon or dipped in Belgian chocolate. Happiness can't count how many Twitter followers you have or who you're connected to on LinkedIn. It hasn't liked your latest status or analyzed your influence.…

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Today’s Brilliance from Dr. Alex Lickerman

The key to happiness isn't material wealth, health, or even fulfilling relationships. The key to happiness is wisdom. Wisdom is so powerful that it can even put a halt to suffering without changing the circumstances that cause it. Most of us deem a problem solved when it no longer confronts us, but from a Buddhist perspective a problem is solved when it no longer makes us suffer, our escaping or overcoming oppressive circumstances representing only one particular means to that end. Certainly it may be the means we most prefer, and in many cases what we need to do to be…

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Unhappiness Happens… But So Does Happiness!

I'd like to tell you that you can be happy all of the time or that happiness is always about choice. But I can't because I don't believe it. I know some people believe it and claim to live it. And if you're one of them, I'm very happy for you... and even a little envious. But for those who seek happiness because we aren't happy all of the time, the best advice I know to give is this, "Happiness happens. Unhappiness happens." If you want to be happy you can't ignore unhappiness. Sometimes our unhappiness is of our own…

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Your Extraordinary Quality of Life

There is a reason why you're reading this today. Today is the day you are moving toward what is intended for you. Are you ready to step into your power with courage and absolute faith in your future? Imagine what an extraordinary quality of life you would have if you woke up every day feeling energized, happy for no specific reason, excited about the day ahead and with a big smile on your face! Today I will share with you some of the keys to a balanced, fun-filled, happy life. First and foremost, express how thankful you are for all…

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Do You Deserve to Be Happy?

I often ask my patients struggling with a life issue, "Do you deserve to be happy?" More often than not, I receive a tenuous answer. "I'd like to say I do, but I'm not so sure" is a fairly typical response. Or I may hear, "I can't remember anyone in my life ever telling me it's my right to be happy." Well, if you haven't heard it before, hear it now: YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! Although relatively few of us were told during our upbringing that the expansion of happiness is the purpose of life, most people sense somewhere…

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Change Your Perception to Find Happiness

If there’s anything I’ve learned about happiness, it’s that is has much less to do with your possessions and achievements, but rather your perception of what you have and the world and people around you. Reframe Your Perception: Each of us has dreams that for one reason or another we do not achieve. And we all make choices that perhaps were not the best we could have made. Yet, rather than allowing regret to overtake us, we must see and celebrate all the other goals we’ve accomplished and positive choices we’ve made? Human nature so often leads us to perceive…

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Finding Meaning In Life

I remember when I was 8 years old, I used to sit on a bus bench or in a park just to watch people behave. This was fascinating to me and was my favorite moment in life, as it still is one of them today. Somehow, at this early age, I was already searching to understand symbolic language; to make the correlation between the inner and outer world and to search for the answer to this existential question that I truly believe should be our number one priority to know: What is the reason for living, walking, working, existing...? It…

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It’s Your Choice

"You'll keep getting what you're getting as long as you keep doing what you're doing!" "The insanity principle is doing the same thing but expecting different results!" "If nothing changes, nothing changes!" These statements all pertain to personal power reinventing oneself and change. More importantly, they all pertain to choice. You have to choose to change YOU. Throughout my life, from childhood through college, corporate career to business owner, wedding day to divorce court, I've encountered people who were in situations they loathed but, for whatever reason, chose not to change how they responded to or viewed the situation. In…

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Cranky Feedback

As a professional writer, counselor, and musician, I’ve received all kinds of feedback about my work. Most of the feedback I get is positive and supportive, and that’s part of the reason I continue to do what I do. But some of the feedback is, let’s just say, “cranky.” Cranky feedback is especially interesting to me, because I usually know where it’s coming from, and can see myself in it. I’ll explain. There was a time when I was quite unhappy, generally angry with life. During that period I felt it was my job to enlighten people about what I…

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Get high on inner happiness!

"So many silly wasted years trying to find happiness in all the wrong places".  That's what I tell myself these days.  Advice to the young woman I once was (if I were to listen!) would be: "Stop trying to find happiness in sensory pleasures like eating out, smoking, drinking, loud music, fine clothes and jewellery, the newest car, expensive holidays and thinking only of yourself all the time, because I know now that none of these things bring you lasting happiness."   Phew! All that pressure to conform and trying to make other people like me!  It was so exhausting! What a…

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Why Your Inner Voice Matters Most

Long ago I was given the privilege of access to my inner voice through painting. I managed to survive high school and college by practicing this precious gift. Yet, when real life hit, I became afraid of losing myself in my dream world and let it go. I took a more practical route. I needed to make money and start a family, and be an overall reasonable person. However, it hit me with time that a huge part of me was dying little by little. It felt like I was blindfolded while walking through the dilemmas of this world, and…

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You Have a Choice

At all times, you have a choice. Life is not happening to you. It's happening for you, and mostly because of you. But no matter what is occurring outside of you, you always have a choice. Your choice is how you respond to the world around you, and how you navigate the world inside you. It's how you choose to translate what happens and what everything means. As simple as it may sound, or perhaps as difficult as this may be to hear, you and you alone have full control over the quality of your experience here in the physical…

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5 Principles For A Successful Life

There is no one all-encompassing secret that will magically transform a person into a raging success. However, there are a number of basic principles that, when followed and applied consistently, will indeed create the environment for a person to live an abundant, successful life - however one personally defines that term. Here are just a few of what I feel are the most powerful: Acknowledge things as they are, not as you wish they were. Please don’t confuse that with a lack of vision or being satisfied with the status quo, two things I strongly advise against. Just understand that…

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5 Daily Habits for a Bountiful Life

Here are five things to believe in for a bountiful life in the human community; five life habits that if considered daily, you can’t help enrich your existence. One: Truly listen. Look in the eyes of others and be in the moment. Wait to speak. Take in the words they offer and savor them before reacting. You might call this “the patience of thought.” You cannot honestly connect with another living thing if you are only considering your own response. Understand your fellow human and you will understand yourself. Two: Be kind. Consider your fellow human being’s experience, background, personal,…

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Your Greatest Responsibility

Perhaps the most important thing I have learned in this extraordinary life is that we are responsible for our own happiness. It is not determined by anything outside of ourselves even though it often appears to be. The rich can be miserable ("Oh, I'm so unhappy. I wanted Johnson to drive me to Tiffany's in the Lamborghini but now I have to go in the stupid Rolls. How awful.") And the poor can be joyful ("Ah, there is enough food for the whole family this year. We are so blessed.") With that reality we have tremendous power; we can stop…

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Start Living Your Best Life Today

Life is a wonderful journey to be embraced. Each day has the potential to uncover a new adventure if we condition our minds to look for the positives. My last words to humanity would be to love more, do more, be more, risk more…do all those positive things people said you wouldn’t be successful doing. Life is a one-way ticket. It is by experiencing every single opportunity that we find our destiny and live our best lives. There are dreams unrealized. Goals left unchecked. Visions that have all but dissipated. However, if we still hold a kindle of fire in our hearts…

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